His ring

lillianchameleon · July 2009

Hi! I just got engaged a couple days ago, and my FI mentioned he wants to have a yellow gold wedding band when we tie the knot. Well, my father passed away from cancer when I was younger, so I actually have his wedding ring, which is a plain yellow gold band just like he wants.Do you think it would be awkward or weird for me to ask if he would like it? I've heard of women's bands being passed down, but not men's rings. Also, I don't know if he would feel weird because my father passed away and it belonged to him.

Calypso1977 · July 2009

i think this is fine to do, if he wants to wear someone else ring. but i'd ask first. also, how would you feel if your dad's ring was lost? this may happen with someone wearing it.

Samantha Durange · July 2009

thats up to your FI. personally IMO If I were the groom i'd want my own ring to symbolize a fresh start, a new life together.

kann2559 · July 2009

You could ask him. If he never met yoour dad, it might not hold the same sentimental value to him as it does to you. He might want his own ring, but you can still still offer.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

You should just ask him! He may find it sweet and sentimental or he may want his own ring. You never know until you ask.

CubsGirl05 · July 2009

I don't know how you would feel about this, but you can take pieces of your dads gold band and hve them melted and formed into a new one. The you can keep a few left over pieces and make something like a necklace or even add it to your wedding band.

lyndausvi · July 2009

On the surface I like the idea. But if he declines the offer I'm sure I would be some what hurt, even though I know it's his choice and I really should not be.How about feeling him out first? Show him the ring by asking if this is what he hand in mind. It could open up a discusion in which you can offer him the ring.

Spim7 · July 2009

I think that would be really sweet and meaningful. What a great way to show that your Dad would have given him his blessing to marry you.

twinkie757 · July 2009

I agree to show him the ring and sort of feel him out. If you are going to be super protective of the ring and worry about him losing/damaging it, I wouldn't go this route. It holds sentimental value to you, but it might not to your FI (I'm assuming your father passed away before FI came around).

aimerzkd214 · July 2009

If it is important to you I would say ask him, but be prepared that he may say no, I think my FI would say no. Not that it is not special but I can understand wanting a new ring since it is your father. I liked a pp that said to get it made into a new piece of jewelry for you. if you don't like white gold you can mayde have it made into a smaller loop then get a white gold loop then have them linked togther (so it is 2 circles interlinked like the olympic rings) or something like that.

salt78 · July 2009

Personally, I think it sounds like a really nice idea.

Andrea_Lea · July 2009

I'm with salt, I think it's a lovely idea.

Pirata13 · July 2009

Definitely ask, but I like both him wearing it or having it melted down and creating a new one out of it. Then it's a little of both. It's still your dad's but it's something your fiance created for himself.

sparkles4u219 · July 2009

My DH is wearing his grandpa's wedding band. His grandmother gave it to him when we got engaged with the intention that he would want him to have it. We both thought it was very sweet and it means alot to DH because he was very close with his grandpa. I would ask him! The worst he can do is say no.

laladypoet · July 2009

and all that is now, and all that is gone, all that's to come, and everything under the sun is in tuneand the sun is eclipsed by the moon

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