Wedding Etiquette Forum

Cash & Thank You's

We received a check today from guests who cant attend our wedding. I had not planned for this and we dont have anything set up (still have separate accounts). We dont want it to just blend in with the rest of our money. How long do we have to deposit the check? Also, it is from one of FI's guests and we agreed that he would write thankyou's to his side, and I would write to my side. I searched knot but couldn't really find anything helpful for him to write thankyou notes. Has anyone found a web page that has been helpful for your FI? TIA!

Re: Cash & Thank You's

  • If you don't want it to blend in with the rest of your money, just cash it and set it aside in a wedding envelope or something. He doesn't really need a webpage to write a thank you. John, thanks so much for the gift you gave us. Looking forward to putting it towards a great new grill/patio furniture/fill in the blank. That will really help us out! Thanks again.
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  • he needs help. Otherwise it would say: "Thanks for the 50 Bucks!" and that's all. There's no way I'm writing them all myself and I really dont want him to write something like that, so I thought I would give him some examples from other people that aren't ME telling him what to write.
  • Deposit it now or open a checking account together now.  It's really not a good idea to let a check hang out for a long tiem.your FI can say, "We were so touched that you thought of us.  Thank you so much for your generous gift.  It will be put to excellent use for our new sex swing!  We will miss you on the wedding day but we will be thinking of you and hope to see you soon."
  • haha, I have the same problem with my fiance, not the most tackful man ever :)I agree that you should cash the cheque right away and put it in an envelope for later.  It's the nicest thing you can do for your FI's guest.  I honestly hate when people don't deposit/cash my cheques right away....I tend to forget that I wrote them and then I get overdrawn later.I've got a wedding book by Mindy Weiss called "The Wedding Book: the big book for your big day"  It's got some really great examples of what to write for thank you notes.  Just pop by a book store and take a look at it.
  • I am in a similar situation but the check says to Tim and Lacy New Last Name, So I can't cash it but FI should be able to right or do we just wait till after the wedding and I have new ID
  • Lacy, your FI should be able to cash it. Check with your bank.
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  • I would deposit the check in any account, doesn't really matter which one, note the gift amount and send a thank you as soon as possible. I normally watch my account very carefully after I send a check so I know when it's been deposited. As for the thank you's themselves, thank the person for the generous gift and state how you think you'll use the gift. For ex. Dear Sally, thank you so much for your generous check. We have decided to put your money towards a down payment on a house, etc.
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  • I personally like Banana's TY note.   I knew she was a naughty banana =-)
    The Bee Hive Est. June 30, 2007
    "So I sing a song of love, Julia"
    06.10.10

    BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
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  • Mrs. B, I was waiting for someone to read it.  ;-)
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