How to curb the kissing clinks?

rhodesign · July 2009

I'm so not a fan of this tradition--I find it obnoxious. We're not monkeys on display for your amusement, plus kissing with food in your mouth (as everyone seems to think it's the perfect time to clink the glass) is gross.That said, I'm trying to think of ways to curb the clinking. We could flat out ignore it, but I don't want to seem like sourpusses. I was thinking of making people do something to get us to kiss, but that's kind of 'meh' as well.So now I'm thinking we might just do something silly each time someone clinks until eventually they get the idea that we aren't going to kiss (except when we want to). Something like take a drink, fist bump, high five, etc. =)Any other ideas? What are you guys doing, if anything?

brideinfall08 · July 2009

i'm also not a fan...thankfully no one did it at our wedding.

jenniferandstephen · July 2009

Thinking of the bride and groom dropping everything and taking a drink at the sound of clinks made me laugh so hard I spit coffee on my keyboard!! (I know, gross) Maybe its just my group of friends but that would be flippin' hilarious! Clearly I like your idea of doing something goofy instead of kissing but just be ready for your guests to think its funny to keep clinking just to get you to be entertaining. Perhaps you can make your point by being silly and be prepared to start ignoring the clinking after awhile. Most of the weddings I have been to lately just had a few of the older guests clink glasses during dinner and then it VERY quickly faded out. GL

krisdi78 · July 2009

We tried ignoring it - it didn't work - the clinking just got louder, then we tried joining in on the clinking too, but that didn't work, so we found it was just best to kiss - it may work if you try doing something else, but some people may not stop until you kiss - at least that's what we found

cruella013 · July 2009

I wish that ignoring it would help, but in my experience it just makes the clinking louder. I'm of the camp to just give in and get it over with - it'll make your guests happy at least.Surprisingly this did not happen at our wedding, but did happen at our RD (how freaking weird).

sapgirl76 · July 2009

Some friends of mine got so sick of it that they did a really over-the-top, passionate, almost obscene kiss. The clinking stopped after that.

jlklusken · July 2009

We avoided it by having a fishbowl of questions by the DJ about us, thy were not always easy, but we made sure that at least one person there could answer it. It was funny, since we made the questions so, and people had a good time with it. Only about 4-5 groups participated and they were allowed a shout out. DJ announced rules after the crowd got to clink once, said that was it for the evening and only one person tried after that (which we ignored). Good luck avoiding the dreaded clinks!

Maura81 · July 2009

yeah im trying to figure out how to curb this as well. I HATE IT. At one of my cousins weddings the groom actually said something about it in his welcoming speech. I can't remember his wording but he basically ask that guests not do that. I personally thought it was AWESOME and if I could think of appropriate wording we may do that. Im sure some people were like OMG I can't believe he just said that, but I personally think its a great idea. Just have to find a way to word it.

AwkOcto · July 2009

At the last wedding I went to, instead of having the bride and the groom kiss during the clinks, the bride and groom made a list of all the couples they invited to the wedding (including parents of the bride and groom as well as aunts, uncles, etc. who were married and brought their spouses) and the MC called out their names to kiss. I think the parents of the bride were in on it so they started off the first kiss and then it went from there. It turned out to be really fun because after that, no one knew who would come up next.

lizlovesart · July 2009

I also want to avoid this because its annoying. One of my friends went to a wedding where you had to sing a love song in order for them to sing. Some people may be to intimidated to sing or in my case my family and friends would probabl turn my wedding into American Idol..Good luck!

mbf124 · July 2009

i went to a wedding where different couples kissed instead like pp mentioned. it was cute, and most people got into it.

orienae · July 2009

You could also put little bells on the tables with instructions to use the bells, then only put one bell on the table, if there aren't enough to go around you probably would get less ringing.....and you can always break some of the bells before you put them out

klewando · July 2009

This is about the worst tradition I can think of. I am not looking forward to this part of the reception at all! FI, doesn't feel the same way as I do! So now I look like the heartless one! Just not into PDA, I would rather crawl under the table. The clinking already started at our shower, uggggggh.

sarajoy12345 · July 2009

We avoided it by having a cocktail reception where everyone was wandering around the estate....oh yeah and plastic glasses

MLC84 · July 2009

I'm not a fan of this tradition either. I once was at a wedding where if the guest wanted the couple to kiss, they had to stand up infront of everyone and sing a song with the word "love" in it. Here's another suggestion from a friend of mine:Kissing Game Poem:"Please no clinking of glasses or bells rung out loud, We'd prefer something different from this lovely crowd.We've filled a box with Hershey chocolates and set it aside,Near the head table, which seats the Groom and the Bride.If it's a kiss that you're after, come forward and stand,Now roll up your sleeve and dig in with your hand.Reach down deep and retreive a kiss of GOLD,A smooch between the Bride and Groom you'll behold.But if you pull out a SILVER kiss in your quest,You'll be required to kiss another guest".

ennaerb80 · July 2009

My bridesmaids knew I hated this, so they went up to the DJ and had him announce that people who wanted us to sing would first would have to stand up and sing a song with the word love in it. We thought that would curb the requests right away, who likes singing in front of people right? No, it actually turned out pretty entertaining, because whole tables would stand up and sing a song that they planned out, then another table would try to out-do the other table. So, to oblige them, we would kiss. That made it at least tolerable (not that I hate kissing, but standing up, taking time away from dinner, etc.)

sgylling · July 2009

I haven't been to a wedding in the last couple years where people have clinked which is nice as I am with you on not liking it. I guess those couples are lucky, I am hoping for the same! I have never heard of singing! The Hershey Kiss idea is really cute.

nbalkin · July 2009

i was at a friends wedding where they asked people to get up in front of the bride and groom and kiss each other in some dramatic style and the bride and groom had to try and replicate it. It definately made the night interesting!

rhodesign · July 2009

that hershey's kiss poem is pretty good! I'll think about that one. The other idea was to have people either sing or dance to get us to kiss. The DJ would decide what song (something metal). Here's my stupid little poem *ahem*We won't do a thingif we hear the glass clingif you want us to kissall you gotta do is singIf you don't got the chopsthen you have one more chancego pick up the boaand do a little danceSo the idea was that they'd have to go to the DJ booth and get the boa and dance to some jazzy burlesque song, or sing a heavy metal song from a list FI provides. It's silly, but so is glass clinking. =)Not sure what we're gonna do yet! I think most people would just let us not kiss, but who knows. My side of the family don't do this tradition, at least not that I've noticed. His he said his side isn't one way or the other. who knows!?

romagrrl · July 2009

We had zero clinking. Why no let your family and close friends know? It's not a huge request to make of your guests.

ennaerb80 · July 2009

There's always that spaz in the crowd that thinks the clinging is just the funniest thing ever, so you need to be armed with a plan...hiring snipers is optional.

lorimw1 · July 2009

We hired a Frank Sinatra impersonator to sing during dinner and to sing for the dances with mom/dad/grandpa. Everyone loved it and we didn't get one stupid clink!

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