People who don't RSVP+Assigned Seating

Re: People who don't RSVP+Assigned Seating

• purdueamanda member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  That's why I made our RSVP deadline date two weeks before we have to give a final head count to our venue.  That way, we have enough time to contact any people who didn't RSVP to find out if they are coming or not.  I don't want to just assume one way or another.  And if someone RSVP'd no but showed up anyways and doesn't have a place to sit, then that's their fault... not mine!  I guess that sounds kinda harsh but what do they expect if they RSVP'd no??Hopefully this doesn't happen! 

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• danieliza1127 member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  You really need to call or e-mail anyone who doesn't rsvp to find out if they are coming or not.  That way you have accurate numbers.  Some people are just terrible at rsvp-ing.  Don't assume that no rsvp means they aren't coming.

  
  

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• Chrissy3321

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  If you are doing assigned seating then you have 2 options: 1. Pay for an extra table full of meals (or a few extra if one of the tables isn't full) then except that many extra people. 2.  People who say no and come don't get in (my choice).When you contact people who haven't rsvp'd say something to this effect"Hello X, We are putting together the final seating chart for our wedding and the list has to be turned into the venue by Y date, so please let us know before then if you will be attending.  If we don't hear back from you we will assume you will not be celebrating with us. Please contact us at 777-777-7777. Thanks Estaticbride"Then.  No place card = no seat.Also, if this happens at your reception it's not your responsibility to handle.  IT'S YOUR DAY!  Have your DOC or the venue coordinator be aware of how you want extra guests to be handled and they will do so.  The guest should feel bad not you-they are the one being rude.

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• ecstaticbride2b member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Thanks for all the advice! I do plan on making phone calls to the people who don't rsvp. Do/did you all have a lot of people that didn't rsvp? I know it's not something I should think about because it usually gets worked out. I think I'm going to do the same that one of you mentioned, if people rsvp'd no and showed up, they won't have a seat. It's mean but sorry we're on a budget and told the caterer a certain amount! That's what the rsvp is for!

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• Chrissy3321

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Yea, if you have the room I probably would too.  I just wouldn't want to know about it until after the fact, then I would be angry.Honestly, you WILL have people who RSVP yes and don't show up, so you will probably have more room and don't even need to stress about it.  I am sure your venue or coordinator has dealt with it before.

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• Chrissy3321

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Yea, like the guy at Sean's work who told one of his GMs the week before "I don't think we are going to make it now because we want to have some people over"  I didn't hear about that one until after the fact.

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• ecstaticbride2b member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  That would probably make me mad too! You are all right, I probably won't know it happens until after the wedding. The one we went to in May, the bride was not aware of the seating/catering dilema. She probably still doesn't know because it all turned out okay!

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