I usually post on the Connecticut board but this seemed like a better question for this board... FI and I are Jewish but we are having a basically secular wedding. I have a fair number of relatives on one side who are orthodox (about 15 guests), but my immediate family and FI's family are not religious. Our venue has an outside kosher caterer so our orthodox guests can have kosher meals. I was told yesterday that some of the orthodox relatives will have a major problem if there is any kind of dairy (butter, cream, etc.) on their tables. I had never heard of this sort of rule and am not thrilled about having to ask my venue to make sure there is no butter on certain tables. I plan to sit all the kosher people together if possible and make sure that one table has no butter, cream, etc., to avoid any drama. But I am curious how common of a request that is and whether it would be reasonable to draw the line at just giving people kosher meals instead. (My feeling is that I am happy to accommodate people's individual meal choices, but since this is a wedding for more than orthodox people, I don't feel it is required to change communal things to accommodate one group. But I will do it to make peace. I am just curious how reasonable this is.) Thanks!