Do it or don't?

nygirl07 · July 2009

I need opinions on what to do about day of pictures. I'm getting married in the winter with a 4 pm ceremony and of course when it's done it will be dark outside. My photographer (kamila harris) mentioned early on that we could do picts before hand or do shots at night.I did not and still do not want to give up the whole seeing eachother for the first time when I walk down the aisle, but I keep wondering if I'll regret not doing day pictures with my FIMy photographer said that as long as we have a locations that has lighting we can do good shots outside at night and right now the plan is to go to the Rowan Universtiy campus but I thnk that when I look at everyones wedding picts and see day shots I can picture night shots. You don't see them alot so it's hard to imagine. Of course I know I"ll have shots of me and my girls and my FI and the guys during the day but the group shots and shots of FI and I will be at night.What would you do? I don't want to regret not having that moment of seeing him as I walk down the aisle but I don't want to dislike my picts either.

candkmc1021 · July 2009

you have a talented photographer. and as long as you have a talented photographer, she can make pictures of you and your FI/DH taken in a landfill look good. i am sure she has been in this situation before (pictures at night). so if you really dont want to see each other before hadn, i wouldn't sweat it too much.

D&J1202 · July 2009

I would absolutely not see him before. You only get that once in your life and you can't get it back if you want to. If you are really wanting daytime pics did you ever think of doing a modified TTD with the hubby during the day. You could do night for the wedding day and then those for the daytime. Just a thought.

nygirl07 · July 2009

That's a great idea...I didn't even think of that

lmparlett · July 2009

I think it depends how important him seeing you for the first time as you walk down the aisle is. I know some people that liked the meeting before the ceremony, so the first time he sees you is more private, and you can see and hear his reaction.... and your photographer can capture the whole thing.

D&J1202 · July 2009

We are doing a picture session with our best man after. They are getting married a month after us so it will be a double TTD with all four of us.

njbrowneyedgrl74 · July 2009

Shots at night would be so cool and unique--I'd absolutely wait to see him and do pics at night.

eb629 · July 2009

I wouldn't compromise my desire to not be seen before the wedding for day shots. Plus, I think night shots will be AWESOME... You don't see to many like that mainly b/c the reception has already started and the photographers are generally just getting dancing pics. I think nighttime formals would be GORGEOUS!!!

PharmJen · July 2009

I think that's an extremely personal decision...and I seriously doubt you're going to dislike your pictures because Kamilla does great work. It's all about capturing you and your hubby in those moments, regardless of daylight. For us, we want to see each other before the ceremony. For me, I know seeing him before will help calm my nerves so I don't look like a big red blotchy mess walking down the aisle = )

Eatonpoosay · July 2009

I'm doing mine before hand because I want to get the most out of my cocktail hour (it runs right after the ceremony). Think about this. He is not going to see you first, your guests are. Remember everyone stands when you walk in so he probably won't even see you until you are halfway down the aisle. My photographer is setting up our first meeting. Just me and him. It's private and personal. I've never heard of Kamila but if she's good I'd trust her suggestion and do them before hand.

KristylovesBriley · July 2009

We had a 4pm ceremony in November and we did shots together before because we were afraid of running out of light after. We saw it this way, no matter when/where it happens, we were still seeing each other for the first time one way or another. It didn't really matter to us if it was under a tree or at the end of the aisle. It was just about the two of us being together. It saved a lot of time and a lot of hassle between ceremony and reception. (And even though we spent about an hour together before the ceremony, I still bawled my eyes out during and it was still "special".)

miss1180 · July 2009

i was in a wedding where they saw each other beforehand and took pics. at first, i thought it was strange... but seeing it done, it was really sweet, and i wish we had done it for ours! i think its neat, because the photographer can set it up really nicely make it special... AND theres nothing else going on at that time, so she can really concentrate on getting some great, special shots. and i think like others said, no matter when you see each other that day, it will be awesome and sweet :-)

nygirl07 · July 2009

Times not an issue...we have 2 1/2 hrs b/w our ceremony and reception b/c it's New Years Eve we are starting the reception later so it will go till 1am and we will be at our cocktail hour.I know a lot of people see eachother before hand and I've seen picts of it done but I always just never liked it (personal opinion). I guess of all the wedding things the whole "doors opening, and that first glimps in the church" was what I always invisioned and I want the whole butterflies in my stomach feeling b/c that makes it all the more exciting :)I'll stick with my original plan...b/c I would really hate to miss that moment and like you girls said, Kamila will make the shots look great no matter what

Eatonpoosay · July 2009

OK, not to sound like a biitch but if you already knew what you were going to do and had your mind set on it then why the hell ask this question? Just curious.

angel33284 · July 2009

I think after your ceremony it's gonna get extremely cold and trying to smile with your teeth chattering might be difficult. And personally I think you'll get the butterflies and then not be able to enjoy the moment because you'll be told to sit up and shut up by the priest. Personally I would rather see my fiance before hand and be able to talk to him and tell him how I feel. You're gonna lose that moment and get some bible verses instead.

nygirl07 · July 2009

Eatonpoosay: That did sound a little rude but to answer you question my mind wasn't set one way or another. I had planned on doing one way but kept rethinking it and thinking about doing it the other way.

nygirl07 · July 2009

angel33284: It's more of the moment we first see eachother when the church doors open which is only a split second.and yeah we are prepared to deal with it being cold but we are willing to suck it up for pictures, either way we'd be doing pictures afterwards since we have them time and we've had a couple brides on here who got married in the winter, one down the shore in Feb., who got picts outside in the cold and they said in the moment it doesn't even bother you...Fingers crossed

Eatonpoosay · July 2009

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nygirl07 · July 2009

That's your opinion but now what many other past brides have said

njgal26 · July 2009

I think nighttime pictures willl look amazing, especially since you are doing a NYE wedding b/c NYE is all about the nighttime anyway! :-)I don't know if you thought about it, but I've seen several nighttime shots done with sparklers that looked really nice! I'd like to do that but I am such a klutz that I could totally see my dress catching on fire somehow! :-)

nygirl07 · July 2009

We definetly want to try to do the sparklers for some picts

demarcosjd · July 2009

I think the night pictures would be awesome and very unique. I love the sparklers idea! I don't think I would want to see each other before but that is only my opinion. I think it would come down to what is more important seeing each other for the first time or pictures in the day light. Either way what you decide im sure it will all turn out amazing. A new years eve wedding sounds like so much fun!

PhillyGirl885 · July 2009

It sounds like it is important to you to not see him before so I would keep it that way if I were you. Like a others said before you will never get that moment back.

njbrowneyedgrl74 · July 2009

I can honestly say that my eyes never left his and vice versa from when I stood at the end of the aisle. I literally didn't look at anyone there until after we sat down for the readings. Not everyone feels the same and that is what makes us different. Do what you both feel is best!

nygirl07 · July 2009

njbrowneyedgirl74: Your post really just convinced me not to give up the entrance at the church:) That is the moment everyone talks about!

julndan · July 2009

Alot of photogs have been telling me everyone is taking pics beforehand. Call me traditional but I agree....I love the idea of the doors bursting open and my fiance seeing me then, there, walking toward him. It's just the way I've always pictured it. Another idea if you are worried about it (as I have gained eternal insomnia since my engagment) my photog offered to do another pic session (after wedding) if need be. So you can always schedule in a day pic session in your dress with your hubby if you decide you don't like the night pics. Of course, this would be AFTER the wedding, but you can always keep it in your back pocket as "plan B."

Best of luck! I wanted sparklers too!!!

nygirl07 · July 2009

julndan: another poster suggested that too and I will be keeping that in the back of my mind. My photographer is fast with getting picts back so if for any reason I wish we had some day shots we can do another photo shoot and hey it would be fun to wear the dress again

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