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Engagement party woes

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Just got engaged last Tuesday but my fiancé and I wont be getting married until May of 2014. I would like an engagement party but don't know when we should have it. I know theknot.com says we should have it sooner to when we got engaged than when we are getting married but we have basically two and a half years till our date. I was thinking about having it in April or May of this coming year but that will still be two years away. Any thoughts? 

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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    Everyone on TK is going to tell you the same thing- you shouldn't throw yourself an engagement party. It's bad etiquette and gift grabby.  If someone offers to throw you one than great, if not it's not necessary. 
     
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    Ditto Hoboken.

    No one offered to throw me an engagement party, so I didn't have one. I am not broken up about it nor do I feel like I've missed out.
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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    I would have it in April or May. 2 years is a while away but that is when we had our engagement party. You can have it whenever you want though.


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  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    I get E parties for long engagements. However I had a long engagement and no E party for me.

    However, the Bride and groom doesn't throw it. It is a party to honor the couple so throwing it yourself is attention seeking and gift grabby. Don't ask anyone to throw it either as that puts people in a uncomfortable spot and it is really rude to ask.

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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    I have been engaged since 7/24/10 and we will be married 5/5/12 you do the math. Our engagement is rather long and we didn't have an e-party. I didn't really care.

    Please do not throw your own e-party.

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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagement-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:34342478-bbdf-4216-9627-ecc5991e5b54Post:b8feebaa-a437-412e-a4b1-bfeecd9644b7">Re: Engagement party woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement party woes : This. I don't get why engagement parties are such a big deal.
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    Yup. E-parties are super uncommon in our area. I think I've only ever heard of 1 within my circle.
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  • blgroutblgrout
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagement-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:34342478-bbdf-4216-9627-ecc5991e5b54Post:f93894fe-a592-459c-8b58-3329ffc821d0">Re: Engagement party woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement party woes : Yup. E-parties are super uncommon in our area. I think I've only ever heard of 1 within my circle.
    Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

    Same here.  I actually had someone offer to throw one, but we (politely) refused.  It just seems gift grabby and unneccessary to me.


    It is bad ettiquette to throw yourself an e-party.  If someone offers to throw you one, and you want it, great.
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  • stefaniewattiestefaniewattie member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagement-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:34342478-bbdf-4216-9627-ecc5991e5b54Post:09f4e2e9-7f48-48b1-9f93-050b72d63e74">Re: Engagement party woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have been engaged since 7/24/10 and we will be married 5/5/12 you do the math. Our engagement is rather long and we didn't have an e-party. I didn't really care. Please do not throw your own e-party. Congrats on your engagement!
    Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

    Im 5/5/12 too! yay! :)

    To answer the question though...like PP's said..dont throw yourself an engagement party.
    We had a VERY casual "engagament party"...we asked our friends if they wanted to do a big camping trip. It was a group effort of planning, I did some, FI helped, as well as our other friends that were coming...and then when we got there it sorta turned into a "engagement celebration." We never had a formal party celebrating it...I actually think its kind of odd to have a party to celebrate an upcoming party.. but by all means, if someone is wanting to throw you one..let them.. as long as everyone invited to the party is also invited to the wedding..
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  • Soon2BeMrsTingSoon2BeMrsTing
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagement-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:34342478-bbdf-4216-9627-ecc5991e5b54Post:09f4e2e9-7f48-48b1-9f93-050b72d63e74">Re: Engagement party woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have been engaged since 7/24/10 and we will be married 5/5/12 you do the math. Our engagement is rather long and we didn't have an e-party. I didn't really care. Please do not throw your own e-party. Congrats on your engagement!
    Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

    Mandi got engaged on the day H and I married :)

    OP, I agree with all the others.  Please don't throw your own engagement party.  If someone offers to throw one for you, you are free to accept or decline. 
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  • KarenofcourseKarenofcourse member
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    It is not proper to throw a party for yourself, ever.  It is gift grabby.
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  • msbdumasmsbdumas member
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    fi and i had a engagement party but we called it a bridal gathering becuase we hosted the party ourselves. although like pp you should not throw your own e party it is common in the area i live in to do it yourself ! so if u do throw one yourself maybe jus call it " a briday gathering or get together" and i would say do it in the next month to 3 months...we just invited our  parents, the ppl we wanted in the bridal party and a few close friends and it was nice !  so good luck and congrats on your engagement ! 
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  • soleildhiversoleildhiver member
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    Engagement parties don't seem to be popular where I'm from (I've never heard of anyone having one) but we're throwing a party for everyone and calling it an engagement party. basically it's just so that we can see all of our friends that we haven't had a chance to see and catch up with them. No gifts, no formalities. Just all of our friends in one place!
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  • JGreenfan2000JGreenfan2000 member
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    We hosted ours but said not gifts and we did ours during the summer we got engaged in oct 2010 and getting married June 2012. 
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