too early?

julianels · July 2009

When should I set my RSVP date? I have a lot of OOT guests. Additionally, this is a holiday wedding (Jan 2).Is response request of Dec 2 (one month before) too early for guests?When would yall request response?

Leigha12 · July 2009

A month out is not too early. I think it's perfect. As far as your guests know, you have to have numbers in to your caterer/venue 2-3 weeks ahead of time, plus you need time to call all the people who don't answer.

reddie36 · July 2009

It partially depends on your caterer - when do they need final #'s and how much time do you think you will need to contact the non-repliers? So I would say put the RSVP date 6-8 weeks out. I plan to do 6 weeks, but ours is not during the holidays. With Thanksgiving the week before your RSVP date it could easily be forgotten by all those 'last minuters' in all the hustle and bustle of the holiday.

julianels · July 2009

If I make it an 8 week out RSVP when should I send invites? 12 or 16 weeks in advance? TIA for the opinions!!

julianels · July 2009

BTW we're doing Central Market catering and they are pretty flexible even during the holidays!

Leigha12 · July 2009

8 weeks is a bit too long, I think. Especially if you sent or will send STDs. The traditional time line is to send the invites 8 weeks before the wedding, with an RSVP of 4 weeks prior.

julianels · July 2009

I didn't send stds. My rationale behind that was that we're inviting family only and a few friends. Family knew the date well in advance.

jillers1219 · July 2009

our wedding was not a holiday weekend, but we did have a ton of OOT guests. our RSVP date was 6 weeks out and we sent invitations a month before that. i whored out our wedding website all over facebook, myspace, and e-mail so everyone knew when and where the wedding was in advance in case they needed to make accomdations. if you spread the word about the wedding, you shouldn't have a problem knowing a majority of the responses before the RSVP date even comes.

reddie36 · July 2009

I'm doing two months in advance for invites, 6 weeks for RSVP. If your caterer isn't a stickler or need the head count way in advance really early then I'd say you should be fine on the same timeframe - but everyone is going to have an alternate opinion.

shanwalk2 · July 2009

I think a month is too early. Unless you have crazy catering requirements. We had to turn in final numbers 10 days before the event... so our rsvp date was like 18 days before the wedding date... that way we had a week to call those who didn't turn them in, ect. I think if you ask for them too early, you're just going to end up frustrated with all the changes that people will make.

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