3 Dads and a baby/bride

jro1515 · July 2009

Hello girls! Ok so I'm getting married September 13th and have been putting this off bc I truly don't know what to do. My mom had me at 18 at the time was married to my dad. They divorced and she remarried my step dad. They too divorced and she remarried my current step dad. Here is my dilemia: I wasn't close with my real dad until about 4 years ago, he was a dead beat but has made leaps and bounds sinceStepdad #1: Raised me from 2-16 so I was definitely very close to him and still call him dadStepdad #2: Has been in my life for 10yrs now, and by far the one I'm closest with. I have no clue how to choose between them for walking me down the aisle, first dance, speech etc... I thought of 1 doing each but I don't want my wedding to feel like a circus. PLEASE any advice would be VERY appreciated!!! Everyone keeps telling me to do whatever I want but that's the problem I have no clue! I love them all eequally. Help ladies!!!!!Thx,Jackie

Samantha Durange · July 2009

walk aone. that way noone's feelings are hurt bc they weren't the one's left out. IMO

Samantha Durange · July 2009

alone ***

Puppylove*85 · July 2009

Given the fact that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, what about having your mom walk you down the aisle?

111Kate111 · July 2009

Could you have your mom walk you down the aisle? I agree 3 people walking you down the aisle might be a bit much. I am sure your dads will understand.

clseale13 · July 2009

Why not have your mom walk you down the aisle? Or, you can walk down by yourself. I would skip the speech...tough call on the dance though.

111Kate111 · July 2009

Then during the father/daughter dance, could you pick a song and dance with each one for a minute during it? I think that would be a sweet way to include them all and have no hurt feelings.

katiewhompus · July 2009

I agree with pp, but if you must have them walk you...Maybe have birth dad walk down 1/3 of the way, then hand you off to next dad, who then gives you to next dad. Then instead of "her father and I do" have mom say "her family and I do" for the "who gives away this woman" part....

agk0125 · July 2009

I would walk alone or with your mom.Or you could walk with one, dance with the second, and let the third give a speech.Or skip the dance and just let them each give a short toast.

trix1223 · July 2009

I'd either walk by yourself or have your mom walk you down. I'm a church organist, and last fall had a wedding where 3 different men walked her down the aisle: each doing part of it. To be honest, it looked silly and seemed, IMO, to detract from the bride's entrance and from the honor of walking her down.Perhaps if you feel you must include them all, have 1 dad walk you down the aisle, 1 dad give a toast, and 1 dad do the dance.

cravecase · July 2009

With your mom or alone. A friend of mine (I reference below) did this because she didn't want to choose.And either switch dancers during the song or skip the official father/daughter & mother/son songs and just dance throughout the night with each of them. If you decide to pick one or rotate dancers/walkers make sure you talk through your plans with each of them. A friend of mine chose her stepdad over her real dad for the dance because he raised her and she was much closer to him. She said she informed them both, but then her real dad threw a FIT during the reception when the dance started - he started screaming and throwing stuff, then crying about how hurt he was over her actions...I know awful right?

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