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Last minute invites - how do you ask?

ATyukodyATyukody
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How do you ask people at 3 weeks before if they would like to come to your wedding - fortunately we had some family that could not come so it made some room for more friends.
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Re: Last minute invites - how do you ask?

  • real dealreal deal member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Maybe call them and flat out say "I'd love for you to come to our wedding. I know it's short notice, but I want to mail you the invite and let you know as soon as possible."  I don't think you need to get into the details of why you are asking so close to the date.  You'd be surprised, they mayjust jump for joy and see it as an honor that you asked no matter how much - or little - notice you've given them.  Go for it.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would just put the invite in the mail ASAP and hope that they will be able to make it on short notice. If the RSVP date has already passed or is coming up really quickly just take out the response card with the date on it and replace it with a generic card asking them to RSVP ASAP.  I wouldn't call. I wouldn't want anyone to know that they were b-listed. And if someone called me and basically told me that I was second string I would decline the invite.
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  • Lola MinnieLola Minnie member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe call and ask why they haven't rsvp'ed yet since the deadline passed? I know it's sneaky but post office accidents happen and they then won't realize they are B list invites
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  • tlc11934tlc11934
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Just get the invite in the mail today!  I was IN a wedding once that sent out the invites three weeks before.  It happens.
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  • teamAandEteamAandE
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I don't know, if these are friends of yours and you tell them now that some family declined you have more space they should understand. I would! You know your friends best. I had a few people we invited late in the game and they were SO happy to be invited and they all came. We spoke to them all first and then sent invites so they had them.
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  • jaimelodyjaimelody
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the other posts. You still have some time to get it in the mail. Asking people after the fact and so close to the date is always touchy.
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  • brad1431brad1431
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would say that we had a limited budget for our wedding so we had to keep our guest list to a minimum, some people backed out at the last minute and we thought of you immediately.  I know it is short notice but we would love to have you attend our wedding....
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  • DMLJDMLJ member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Could you blame it on your family? I would say something along the lines of "My dad paid for the reception so I wasn't able to add all of the friends that I wanted to on the guest list. A few family members backed out so I now get to start inviting a few friends. I'm so happy that I get the chance to invite you now and hope you can make it."
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