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really stressed

hannahmarie327hannahmarie327
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Hi all,I need some encouragement here.My wedding is in just over a week. FI is sick with the stomach flu, and my apartment seems to have a SPIDER problem (and I am deathly afraid of spiders!). Therefore, I am uncomfortable in my own house, I don't want to walk around without shoes on and it's making me really anxious.  Not to mention that I am still tracking down RSVPs, and I am behind on last minute wedding details because I myself was sick with the stomach flu last week.I'm exhausted from tossing and turning thinking about spiders in my house (yes I really am that OCD, but pest control will be here in a couple days).I am stressed, overwhelmed, and very tired. It seems like a lot of you had really stressful stuff happen in the weeks before your weddings. What does everyone do to cope with major stress?
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  • oconnorcaitlinoconnorcaitlin member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'm not married yet- but if I were you, I would go get a massage. Do something completely selfish for yourself. I would also call on your wedding party to help you out. Go get coffee with them and see what things they can do to help you.I am sure everything will come together (it always does). I know it's easier said than done- but you can do it.Good luck!
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  • VAtoCOVAtoCO member
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    edited December 2011
    Booze?  Just kidding...well, sort of ;)  I don't have any great advice.  Take a deep breath. Discard some of the last minute details if they're not totally necessary.  I agree with the PP...maybe take some time out for yourself.  Get a pedi or a massage to help you relax.  Keep your eye on the prize....at the end of the day, all that will matter is that you and your FI are MARRIED!
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  • PassLakePassLake member
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    edited December 2011
    Yikes!  That's no fun.Can you take your laptop and phone to a coffee shop and get some work done?  Relax a bit - maybe stay with a friend?The biggest thing I learned from my wedding was this:Don't stress.The thing I regret about my wedding is that I spent the last week and day-of SUPER stressed.  There was no need for it, I should have just enjoyed myself!  Everything came together, we had a good time, and stressing didn't change a thing.Your wedding will be beautiful :)  Enjoy this time!
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  • lap256lap256
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My wedding is in 11 days, and I've been beginning to feel stressed. I put off a lot of wedding tasks until now because I defended my M.S. thesis in June and started a new job in July. What has helped me is making a wedding checklist and figuring out a plan to get it all done. Once my list was broken up into chunks to do each day, it wasn't so overwhelming.
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  • cobride2be83cobride2be83
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    stop. breath. make a list and ASK FOR HELP!!!! i too regret being so stressed the week leading up to the wedding. i wish i would have taken people up on their offers to help. even if it is calling people to check on their rsvp.
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  • HBookmanHBookman member
    Sixth Anniversary 10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'm also not married yet but I second the massage idea. My FMIL got me a gift card for a massage for my bridal shower and I fully intend to use it the week of the wedding to help me relax. I also totally hear you about the spiders, I hate them and the only way I can get rid of them is with the vacuum hose so I can stay as far away from them as possible. Killing spiders is definitely FI's job! We rented a house a few years ago that had a bad spider problem too, at one point we were killing 7+ spiders a day. Our landlord wouldn't do anything about it either, it was terrible. I was always freaking out at night thinking something was crawling on me and slept terribly for awhile, so I feel ya! Hopefully pest control can take care of them!Good luck over the next week! Try to stay as calm as possible and I'm sure everything will go wonderfully!
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  • steffenfamsteffenfam member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Definitely ask people for help.  I know on some knot boards people have said that you should never ask a guest to "work" at your wedding.  But we had so many people who wanted to help, and they were very excited to do so.RSVPs - when we finally tracked down everyone, the last minute people who finally said "yes", never showed up anyway.  If it takes this long to make a decision if they're coming or not, they obviously don't really care. IMO.Hannah, the weather is great this week, if you can get a few minutes, maybe a walk in the park will do you some good!
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  • me2reanme2rean
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would have loved to have a massage a week before, but honestly, there was no time. If you can, make a list of things that need to be done, then a list of maybes. Finish the first list, then set a deadline for the second list (3-4 days before the wedding) and whatever doesn't get done, either pass off to someone willing to do it, or forget it altogether. Do you have a DOC? Someone helping you the day of will really help keep you calm and relaxed, because no one should feel otherwise on their wedding day! If you don't have a DOC, I would find a friend who might be willing to do this for you, or you can always email me. mandrewsr at yahoo dot com. I'm sure everything will be wonderful and lovely, try to enjoy it because it will go by so fast!!
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