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**Octoberbride09****Octoberbride09** member
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How old is too old not to invite significant others to wedding?   My younger brother is 17 years old and is throwing a fit because well I didn't think to invite his girl friend. I know that at 17 dating someone for 6 months or so is FOREVER but in big boy and girl land 6 months is not a serious relationship. Not to mention we'd have to figure out where she'd be sleeping and who's going to be keeping an eye on them both (if you know what I mean) Not only that but it's my freakin wedding weekend not little brother and co.'s weekend getway all expenses paid by me. I Know I'm sounds a bit bridezilla-ish so please correct me if I'm being out of line.   Now, other situation at hand is that My sister (and a bridesmaid) has started dating a new boyfriend who she's not even serious about (her words not mine) and now she wants to bring him too. I don't really mind because she was supposed to bring her old boyfriend and now we have space for a +1 on the list but I don't know... I don't like him that much and really don't want ot deal with it. Problem is I know I can't really tell her not to bring her new boyfriend even if he is the flavour of the week. Then again how do I tell her she can bring him and have my little brothers girlfriend out? Technically she's been around longer.   drama.
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  • jennej24jennej24 member
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    edited December 2011
    I remember reading in some etiquette book that if the person is 18 or older then they should get to bring a guest it doesn't matter how serious the relationship is. I agree about not inviting the brother's girlfriend. As for your sister, I would let her bring the guy, seems like it will be more of a hassle if you don't because she will be annoyed the whole time. I tried to find where I read that 18 thing, but seems like if you could find it you could use that to explain to your brother why he can't bring his girlfriend.
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  • TheJenniusTheJennius
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    edited December 2011
    Oh no.I have a very strong opinion on +1's for my wedding: no ring on the finger, no +1! DONE.Your 17-year-old brother needs to think of better ways of pleasing his ickle girlfriend. Unless he is willing to pay for his +1, he is no right to demand anything from you (or your wedding).Your sister needs to be more understanding. Weddings are on principle, a family affair. If she is not willing to accept the seriousness of her relationship, gooday Mr. New Boyfriend, gooday.Do you really want these two almost-strangers in your memories? Are you really going to pay for infatuations? Frankly, if I were you, I'd have given them both a piece of my mind.Not Bridezilla at all, girl. Reasonable!
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  • Anagloria83Anagloria83
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    edited December 2011
    I would have invited either of my siblings' significant other, despite how long or short of a period of time they've been together or how old they may or may not be.  Their being happy, even if for a few hours, would make me happy.  If you don't like your sister's new boyfriend, then consider your brother's girlfriend.  If you can't afford to pay for her expenses, let him know and ask if she and her family are willing to come up with the money for it.  As far as babysitting them, group her with your female cousins (or younger sisters, if you have any), or any other young ones.  Or gradma!  (You know she'll be watching her)On a side note, 6 months is long enough for some people.  Heck, some people get married after a few months of being together.  To each their own.GL
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  • rrive008rrive008 member
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    edited December 2011
    i would say to invite your sisters bf even if it is a non serious boyfriend (try to not get him in too many family pics just in case lol). i'm including plus 1's for my guests simply because i want them to have fun. I know if i were going to a wedding that was not a family wedding, but i couldn't bring anyone i might not go (unless it was like a best friend). I wouldn't dance with random people and i wouldn't enjoy making up random conversation with people i dont know. thats just me though.
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  • rrive008rrive008 member
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    edited December 2011
    i'd like to add though, that teenagers will most likely be coming with their family so no dates for them :o)i meant friends could bring plus 1's
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  • SpingchickenSpingchicken
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    edited December 2011
    I would invite both the +1's. I thought about this one myself and then realized that I want everyone to enjoy the wedding. I know how I would feel if I was in their shoes. It's your wedding you do what you want. But if it were mine I would invite them.
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  • citytoshore09citytoshore09 member
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    edited December 2011
    you're not being bridezilla AT ALL.my brother is 25 and i let him bring 2 of his guy friends because it would make the wedding more enjoyable for him. (they also are like my other brothers!) i also let my bridesmaids bring dates even though they weren't in relationships. so as much as i want to say, just let them bring dates... i'd be freaking out about 17 year olds trying to get around the rules! did you talk to your parents and ask them what they think? i would just tell them both to suck it up and not let them bring dates. i hate that in my pictures on bridesmaid had her flavor-of-the-week date and they don't talk anymore.
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  • YHFoxtrotYHFoxtrot
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I think this is tough but it may be worth it to just let him bring her to shut him up. Especially since your sis is bringing her new guy... but the part about worrying about where she's gonna stay and stuff... that makes it more complicated so I don't know.Either way, I don't think you are being a bridezilla... these are the difficult things us brides deal with!
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