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I need some help... (sorta long)

Beezo23Beezo23 member
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To give a little background, my dad and I aren't very close.  We never have been.  I had a hard time deciding if I was going to have him walk me down the aisle....I will not be "given away."  For a while, I was going to walk myself.  Still unsure of what I'm going to do, but if I don't walk myself, I'll have my mom and dad walk me half way and I'll walk the rest myself.So, to give my dad some input, I suggested he choose a father/daughter song to dance to.  My dad isn't much into music.  I talked to him last night and he tells me the song he might like.  I google it, find it on YouTube, listen to it, and it's quite cheesy....I'm not trying to be mean, but really, it's cheese.He asked me to let him know what I think about it.  I don't want to hurt his feelings...but I REALLY don't want to dance to it.  What should I do???  What would you do?Thanks for reading and "listening."
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  • StefandToddStefandTodd
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    edited December 2011
    I had a very similar situation as yours, except that my dad is sort of into music, so I was glad to have him choose something.  One thing I did though was ask him to send me like 5 songs he liked, so i could choose one. Can you tell your dad, "that song is good...it sounds like you're on the right track with finding something, but it's not exactly what I was picturing...can you find a few more to send my way?"  you might even tell him, "if you want, I can suggest a couple too, and you can let me know what you think of those...?" ...You should say something though...good luck =/ I wish I had the list of all the songs my dad suggested b/c they were really meaningful, but non-cheesy.  We ended up dancing to "Forever Young" by Bob Dylan, but sung by Joan Baez.  It was great...not super cheezy at all.  I can't remember the other ones though.  Good luck!!!
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  • sm23sm23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think Stef made a really good suggestion... I'd definitely say something along the lines of what she mentioned.Sorry you have this dad-related stress  :-/
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  • Jessica RiblettJessica Riblett
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    edited December 2011
    Politely tell him so, otherwise you may get stuck with it and then hurt his feelings down the line because you didn't speak up. He will understand, I am sure.
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  • marcilynn510marcilynn510 member
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    edited December 2011
    Is it really that bad? You can't bare it at all?I was shocked when I asked my dad about our first dance expecting a shrug but he said he already had a song in mind AND it was on his computer already!The song he picked too, is a little bit over-the-top (I bet it's the same song), but I'm looking at it as one small choice he's getting to make to contribute to the day.  When I look past the schmaltz and think of all he's given me as I've grown up, I can grin and go with it. I can give him this little thing in return.Just a different opinion.
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  • Beezo23Beezo23 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's not that I couldn't bare it or it being "that" bad, but it's nothing I expected for him to choose.  I believe my stepmother had something to do with the choice.  The other side of it is the words that the song says.....aren't how things are or at least how I see them.  My dad has supported me, but our relationship is not close.  Yes, he is my dad, but I don't want to settle on a song and not be happy with it. I've asked my dad to give a few more options.  He doesn't know I have heard the song.  My stepmom is supposed to be sending it to me, but he told me the title and I googled it.  I'm not really stressed per se, just caught a bit off guard.
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  • sm23sm23 member
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    edited December 2011
    OK, now you have me really curious... What song is it??
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  • anglynanglyn
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    edited December 2011
    I would make a few suggestions that are more you. Then again you did suggest that he pick one. You might hurt his feelings if you say no. I'm more of a control freak, I probably would have sent him a few suggestions and had him pick one off the list. What song is it? Maybe you can tell your dad that your fiance and his mom are going to be dancing with you guys and you want something that you all can agree on?
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  • katiemm2006katiemm2006 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think if you gave him a choice you might want to accept his choice.
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