Even though I listed every person in his family by name on the save the date, my uncle told me that they are bringing his daughter's boyfriend to the wedding. His daughter (my cousin) is 21 and lives at home. She doesn't work and hasn't had more than an eight hour a week job and hasn't gone to college. She just lives at home. She's been dating this guy for a year and they say they are going to get married all the time.
I really want to keep invites under control but I've decided this one just isn't worth fighting over. I see this family all the time and if they do end up getting married, I'll feel bad if he wasn't invited to the wedding. In addtion, they're coming to FL as their family vacation for a few weeks and if I tell them he's not invited then they can' t really bring him on their vacation. It's a lot harder when they're taking a vacation not just a wedding trip. What would he do the whole day of the wedding?
I'm worried about being consistent though. I don't want every other college student who has a boyfriend and lives at home to bring their boyfriend and I don't want teenagers bringing dates either. How can I handle this? I was thinking about not putting his name on the invites and then when they bring him if someone says something just saying oh it was a surprise. But then my uncle might be upset when I don't include him on the invite. I'm specifically putting on the RSVP card how many seats are reserved for each guest. What would you do? Would you include boyfriend on the invite or leave him off still and not say anything if he shows up?