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BM Shower Vent!

TChiumiTChiumi member
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So my shower is this Saturday and my MOH sent a reminder out last week reminding all 7 of my BMs of the date and what they had agreed to do for the shower.  Today I get a text from one of my BM telling me if my MOH has a problem with her that she needs to call her not send her a text with an !  I'm like WTF is she talking about?  So I try to call my BM and she doesn't answer BIG SURPRISE she never answers!! So I call my MOH and I'm like what is going on she tells me that my BM is in North Carolina and forgot my shower was this Sat.  I guess my MOH text her and asked her to pick up some gift cards for prizes for the games and accidentally put the shower was on Friday and it's Sat so my BM then told her she didn't realize it was this weekend and she is out of town for training for work.  How do you forget something like that?  This is the same BM who decided in December that she wasn't going to be in the wedding because we were'nt that close any more then after we talked decided she would still be in the wedding.  I'm starting to think I never should have talked her out of taking herself out of the wedding.  She is causing me drama I DO NOT NEED.

Then another one of my BMs (My brother's girlfriend) Also forgot my shower was this weekend and what she was supposed to be brining.  Once she was reminded my brother called my mom and told her he doesn't have money to buy the stuff for my shower so now she has to lend him the money.  Seriously.....

I'm so irritated with them and I feel so bad for my MOH and the BM that are actually working on making my shower nice.  I just needed and I knew you guys would understand.  
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Re: BM Shower Vent!

  • kmdeck26kmdeck26 member
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    That is a lot :( It reminds me SO much of my bridesmaids. I'm in the same boat as you. My MOH won't help with anything and refuses to pay my other bridesmaid (who planned my shower) for anything. There is a lot more than that from all of my bridesmaids... But just so you know, you're not alone!
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  • KatieK501KatieK501 member
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    Try to stay calm about the BM that is causing the drama.  She really should not have text you and taken her own drama up with your MOH.  I'd tell her that if she does it again - let her know you're glad she's in your wedding party, but you don't want any added stress.

    As for your brother's girlfriend - she probably shouldn't have agreed to help if she didn't have the money, but I've also been on her side of things and know where she's coming from too.  Hosting a shower can get expensive, even when you split it up.  And when it's split, there's always people who feel they do more and people who don't quite carry their weight.  I'm sure you'd do this anyway, but be sure to let them know you're grateful to all of them for the shower - even if she had to borrow money from your mom.
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