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Newlyweds at the reception

jchapman330jchapman330 member
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So, I had read (or watched) somewhere that the Bride and Groom are supposed to stay side by side the whole reception and dance with no one else (other than special dances) the whole night. At first I thought this seemed crazy, but since then we have had a few friends get married and they said it felt like they didn't even see each other the whole evening and before they knew it it was over. One friend even said it didn't even end up feeling like her wedding!! I was wondering what you guys did....and how do you avoid dancing with others, I can honestly see where everyone would want to snag a dance with the bride and groom and it could get overwhelming. I don't want to look back at our wedding and think "Wow I wish we would have seen one another." I thought most people would realize you want to save most dances for each other, but after attending these weddings I see that people really don't.
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  • vmalcolmvmalcolm
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    edited December 2011
    it didn't feel like that at all at our wedding - and we danced with others! i guess - well in our families - we like to dance and get down - so needless to say there wasn't many slow dances - so hubby and I would just boogie with everyone - with the occasional dance across the circle to one another. we LOVED our reception :D
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  • natatomicnatatomic member
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    edited December 2011
    I have seen this too. Even my mother reminds me how she didnt even eat the food at her wedding.. I would suggest that the best way to prevent this would be to talk to your FI and just tell him that you want to really be with him as much as possible. Choose a few special songs to dance to (not just slow ones!) 
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  • vmcelhanvmcelhan member
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    edited December 2011
    ditto val :) we come from two families who LOVE to dance the night away at weddings, so slow songs weren't really on our list.as far as seeing each other, we ate together and danced together but we weren't "side by side", but that was ok with us, i was at one table, he was at another, i was dancing with my flower girls, he was doing drinks at the bar with his groomsmen, but that's how we are and we were fine with it.  we figure we have the rest of our lives to be together so dancing with each other everytime a slow song came along at our wedding reception just wasn't on our priority list i guess.i will say we did take 5 minutes together and we went upstairs (our hall had a balcony overlooking the main ballroom) and we just took it in for a few minutes.  if you can, sneak away together for just a few minutes during your reception, regroup together, and then go back to it.  worked out great for us :)
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  • lilsunshine214lilsunshine214 member
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    edited December 2011
    We wanted to stay next to one another the entire night, but we didn't and things were fine.  We danced together, joked together, drank together, and took some really pretty pictures together.  I remember our wedding reception like I do any other party- I hung out with my amazing man and my friends, sometimes simultaneously, some alone- and I had a great time.Try not to stress about spending a lot of time with your husband, but try to keep yourself conscious of his whereabouts and you'll be fine.
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  • SpringBride1114SpringBride1114
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    edited December 2011
    Do a dollar dance. That way it is only a few songs of dancing with anyone who wants to "steal a dance" with bride/groom. FH and I already decided that, for the most part, wherever one goes, the other does too. You for sure want to have it be a special day with the 2 of you together.
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  • snj2009snj2009 member
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    edited December 2011
     I think it's romantic.... you are on opposite sides of the room, and your eyes meet..... you stare into each others eyes for a moment.... and it reminds you why you fell in love with him. Why not play it up, and "buy" him a drink and have it served to him by your MOH with your phone number on a the napkin.... or a note that says  "meet me in the limo..." o0ohh laaa laa .....
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  • guava82guava82
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    edited December 2011
    We ate together, danced every slow song together. Rocked out to fast songs with friends and family, but stayed pretty near all night. Were there times when I took a time out to talk to some of my family or friends? sure. He was taking pictures with some of his buddies, etc. . . but we spent pretty much the whole evening hanging around each other. I actually told people afterward that I felt bad because I spent most of my time with DH and not with everyone else. They said, "It's your wedding. . . you guys are kind of supposed to hang out together most of the time." Do you have to staple yourself to the other person? Nah. But, I don't think it's cool if you or your husband hangs out with EVERYONE else except each other all evening either. Happy mediums are a good place to be.
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