So my FI is Indian. I'm Korean. We have no idea how to incorporate our cultures. The plan was to do an small American/Korean wedding/dinner up in Seattle then do a small (if there is such a thing) Indian wedding/dinner in San Jose. We wanted to do a larger reception in San Francisco after both these weddings. I feel like it's starting to get out of hand. I want to have the wedding in Seattle at this hotel I love. It's going to be at most 120-150 people, preferably smaller. The Indian wedding for just his FAMILY is going to be 100 already, plus they want to do a sangeet as well. His family is upset because they feel like the Indian wedding is already too small and won't be as fancy as the Seattle wedding. I'm so upset about all of it. I feel like it's going to totally separate the families by having two wedding. But he has tons of family coming from India and we feel like we can't ask them to travel up to Seattle. Likewise, I can't then turn around and say to my family that we expect them to travel but not his. Does anyone have any advice?