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No registry - opinion?

WNYfanWNYfan member
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in New York-Upstate
Morning ladies! I always appreciate your opinion, so here I go...How would you feel/what would you think if you were invited to a wedding and the bride and groom did not have a registry?  I ask, because we really do not want to make one.  This is my second wedding, FI's first, and so that is part of the reason...although the fact that it is my second is not stopping me with anything else!  I feel like a lot of the "wedding things" some people do just because everyone else does it, and I kind of feel like this is one of them.  I usually give money at weddings, so it wouldn't affect me at all, but I thought I'd ask you guys!Thoughts?  Thanks for your help!
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Re: No registry - opinion?

  • GlenLakeLoveGlenLakeLove
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's fine as long as you're OK with getting a wide range of gifts people think you might want,  you know, those gifts that you will return, not need, etc. Is there anything you can upgrade? Any decor items you'd like? I always find that shopping is easier when I have a registry because we don't usually give money.But in the end, its your choice!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    In the weddings I have experienced, majority of the items on the registry are given at the shower. Most people will always still give money for the wedding present.
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  • ShawnandKrisShawnandKris
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    edited December 2011
    Have to agree that you may end up with a hodge podge of gifts that you dont' want or can't use. Even though you don't want to register, it maybe a good idea to create smaller registry of items that you would like to replace ( bedding, sheets, towels, kitchen gadgets etc.) People like to give gifts. We were invited to a wedding last year where the couple flat out told everyone they weren't registering and wanted cash. It just came across a little bold. Do what you feel is right for you and FI. Since this is your second wedding, were you given a shower and recieved nice gifts from your first?
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  • annabear07annabear07
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the pp.  A registry just guides your guests on what to give you.  No registry often equals random gifts.  You can do a non-traditional registry i.e. for camping gear, home depot, amazon.com, if you don't want or need any traditional gifts.
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the pp. I'd be worried about ending up with a bunch of stuff I don't need. But as long as you are skipping the shower you could do a tiny one; just a few dozen things should get you by.
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  • kiki2123kiki2123 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think its perfectly acceptable not to have a registry. At my wedding in 2006 my husband and I already had everything that we would need off a registry so we did not have one.... One slight thing to think about-- quite a few of our guests gave us things that would have been on a registry picture frames etc.... Hope this helps
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  • marycategmarycateg
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    edited December 2011
    I initially was opposed as well.  I grew up in a family where it was improper to say what we wanted for x-mas or b-days so it seemed wierd to me.  I only did because my FMIL insisted but I did not put it on the invitations it was just known to "his side."  I say do whatever you are comfortable with - you can always return things!
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  • mrbw77mrbw77 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hate registries... but we put about 10-12 things on there (at Sears... very practical) that we really need or wanted to upgrade.  We've lived together for 5 years so we have pretty much everything and we're tight on storage so I didn't want a bunch of stuff that we might use 5-10 years down the road.
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  • prettynpink1987prettynpink1987
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    edited December 2011
    If you don't want an actual registry something you may want to look into if you are going on a honeymoon I know it is posible for some places to set up a registry toward your honeymoon expenses.
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  • jms2010jms2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Im gonna go with the majority here and say create, at least, a small registry.  There will always be the people who prefer to give a wrapped gift instead of money.  To me they are one in the same but not to everyone.  So, wouldn't you rather have those people give you something you want instead of some random thing?  
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  • flakeyshellflakeyshell
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    edited December 2011
    I have been toying around with the idea of not having a wedding registry, My mom says the we are having a Greenback shower and wedding which means everyone is giving us money, but i think that is bold to ask for. I'm still going to register somewhere just in case someone would rather give us a gift instead. I hope this helps you.
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