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Beach Wedding

anastasiamwaddellanastasiamwaddell member
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I'm planning a wedding for October of next year and I can't decide if I want to have it at the beach or at a church. Neither me or my fiance are really religious, we rarely go to church, so I would feel a little hypocritical having our wedding there. What I would really like to do is have a small intimate ceremony on the beach with a few of our close friends and family and then maybe have a reception or some sort of get together with those who weren't at the wedding. Does that seem appropriate or would people consider it to be rude? I'm stuck and not sure what to do! We really don't have a lot of money to spend so I thought maybe the beach wedding would run a little cheaper and not leave us broke!
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  • luvoo41488luvoo41488 member
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    You're going to get a lot of people huffing and puffing about how if you're willing to invite someone to the reception, you ought to have them at the ceremony. But I think if you have like 20 people or less (a small, intimate affair), it's fine to have a big reception, just don't expect gifts from those who only attend the reception. As for the hypocrisy, it's your call, but as a non religious person, I think the aesthetics of old churches are BEAUTIFUL, and though I fear a may combust upon entry, wouldn't really have a problem. (My problem would be the inherent religious tone the ceremony would have to take, but since you occasionally go, I don't know that this is a concern?) Just remember the beach in the off season is always going to look a little drearier, and at least where I am, the cold ocean breeze is killer.
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  • britt.daniebritt.danie
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    My aunt got married in Jamaica last August and she didnt invite anyone. My mom was upset about it but everyone understood that they were going to do what they wanted because after all they were the two people getting married. When they got back we had a reception for them and it was nice. Just make sure you dont invite one set of grandparents and not the other or anything like that. Make sure your best friend isnt invited if your FIs best friend isnt. Things like that are what upsets people. Otherwise they will probably understand and respect your decision.
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  • cmkunocmkuno
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    Regarding the small ceremony and big reception, I think you really have to feel out your family and friends on this one.  I wish I had a family who would understand if I wanted to do something like this, but I know they wouldn't.  One of my uncles got married on a beach with just a couple close friends because that's what he and his fiance really wanted to do, and many people in my family were truly upset about it.  Many still don't like his wife, I think largely for this reason.  And a cousin did something similar to your plan where she had a small, intimate wedding one weekend then a big reception a couple weekends later.  I thought it was great, and wasn't offended at all, but I overheard lots of not-so-nice comments at that reception.  So just be careful.  Do what makes you happy, but you don't want to start out your marriage with a bunch of family members upset with you and your new husband.  Hopefully you have a more understanding family than mine, but talk it over first.  Good luck!
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