Anyone not having a shower?

natalie0131 · July 2010

I live in Texas. My family lives in Pennsylvania. My closest friends are scattered all over the country. I may not even see any of them until my wedding in Mexico in November. So I'm thinking there won't be a shower. No one has talked about it anyways. I didn't think I'd care, but I guess I'm kind of bummed.

Anyone else not having a shower?

numb3rMel · July 2010

Natalie, I feel the same way. I've never thought I cared about a shower but as its getting closer, i'm kind-of bummed that no one has even said anything about it. I started to talk about my b-party and that's probably going to happen but i hate that i'm generating the interest. But oh well... not a big deal - really isn't. But i just know what you mean. You don't care but for some reason you're still bummed.

natalie0131 · July 2010

Yes exactly. I was never one of those girls that got all excited by the traditional stuff, and if I DID have a bridal shower I don't think I'd want to play any of the silly traditional games or anything like that. I don't even know what I'm complaining about ha. I guess sometimes you just want what you can't have.

We are all going out 2 nights before the wedding in Mexico so I guess that would count as a bachelorette party. Except not really. Oh well. Too bad you're not near texas either or we could have a pity party haha

Meghangh · July 2010

I think it's ok to not have a bridal shower. I am having one just because my sister is throwing it, and I threw ALL of her pre wedding parties for her.

Natalie, I think that your mexico night out still counts as a bachelorette party. My FI is having his bach party in St. Thomas when we go.

natalie0131 · July 2010

very true, Meghangh. I guess my real issue is that I hate being so far away from everyone right now. I don't have any close friends in Texas (moved here 8 months ago and work constantly) and I guess I'm just have a case of the sads.

I feel so stupid for being bummed. I have an amazing FI and I get to marry him at my dream wedding in Mexico soon. I guess I just need to keep things in perspective. Thanks for letting me vent.

ToBeMrs.O2011 · July 2010

I will not be having a bridal shower. We live in MN and my family & friends are mostly in Boston but scattered throughout the US. I'm kinda bummed about it too.

ms_teach · July 2010

Same here-- don't feel too bad! I moved here about 5 years ago for my then-boyfriend. I thought I'd make new friends at work, but I was the only younger person (most are married with kids), so I didn't really fit into that group. Plus, it's a small town so everyone pretty much knows everyone else and their families. I just never made a new set of girlfriends. Sometimes I get bummed about it, but most of the time I'm really happy with the life FI and I have. Someday we'll have kids and I can join the mommy club.

MzelleRicaine · July 2010

I hear you ladies, sometimes it's hard being far from your family and best girlfriends!

Keep our chins up

*m*

chosen175 · July 2010

We're only inviting our parents to the DW, and I was actually told it "wasn't worth it" to have a shower for so few people. I was also told that since it "wasn't a real wedding" that a shower wasn't appropriate. (We're not getting married in a Catholic Church so the church won't recognize our marriage.) I am upset and sad, but not enough to change our wedding plans.

suzannepdc · July 2010

Natalie -

I was/am in the EXACT same situation as you - I live in TX, family is in NY and VA and friends everywhere. I assumed that there would be no shower, but I was really upset that no one even mentioned it and I naively thought my Mom and sisters would do something little at Xmas with them, my young nieces and my G'ma, but nothing. They did do something small the morning of the wedding, but I think it's b/c I finally said something to my sister that I was hurt that no one said anything about it (it was in a conversation about how I thought my Mom and other sister were not taking my wedding seriously).

The women I work with through me a little shower though, which was lots of fun. And my best friend, who wasn't invited to the actual wedding, planned my b'rette party.

halydia · July 2010

No shower for me, either. My FI and I live in Spain, so logistically things are all goobered up. I haven't found an easy way to ship things, and our home is only 164 square feet, so there's no room for anything. I've never been the traditional sort of girl, can't ever seem to do anything the "right" way, so I'm not sure I'd even be comfortable in the traditional shower setting. Plus, my family and friends are scattered far and wide and I don't find it would be fair to have them make the expensive trek to my American hometown for anything other than a pre-wedding party. (And I even feel guilty about that!)

natalie0131 · July 2010

Well I'm glad I'm not alone.

you girls. Every single one of you.

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