How many miles = a Destination Wedding?

Re: How many miles = a Destination Wedding?

• DevonStiles

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  In my opinion, anyone I invite to my wedding should care enough about me to venture the 5 hours up I-94 to attend the event.I'm not sure I would ever say that again. Ever. Although yes, the bride is the center of attention, you do need to be considerate of your guests.On that note, I'd consider a 5 hour drive a DW.... And to be honest, I probably wouldn't go, unless you were a close friend or close family member. Not only are you asking them to give up AT LEAST a day, if not a weekend, you're expecting them to spend money on gas, lodging, food, gifts, etc. Now if you want to cut your guest list down, this is an excellent way to do it.

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• LarissaAnn member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  Not really. If she's lived there for over a decade, we can assume that a good portion of her guests will be right in the area. It's only a DW for her parents' guest list.

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• duckie1905 member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I always considered a DW a wedding in which everyone (including bride and groom) travel somewhere.If just part of the guest list was traveling, I would just consider it an out of town wedding.Unless your parents are paying then have the wedding wherever you want. 

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• peppypak

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I wouldn't call it a destination wedding... and I understand somewhat because I live near Boston and my mom & bridesmaids are in NY (4+hour drive), but I haven't had this issue. I understand if people can't make it here for the wedding, though, and did split my bridal showers so the NY crew didn't have to drive all the way up here. Anyway... If your parents want you to have a 2nd reception in Milwaukee and they are willing to pay for it, then fine, free party. I would still invite everyone to the big day in the twin cities though. Unless they're being nasty about it, it's not a big deal. Hope that helps. Have fun.

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• banana468 member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  In my opinion, anyone I invite to my wedding should care enough about me to venture the 5 hours up I94 to attend the event.PLEASE keep that opinion to yourself.  If guests get wind of that, it does smell a bit like bridezilla entitlement complex.I think the question is, how far away is your wedding location for your guests?  If all of them must plan a 5 hour drive then you're having a destination wedding.  If your wedding is central to some guests but not a good portion then it's not a 'true' destination wedding but it will be for all of those guests.I think you need to go with your parents' feelings on the matter as long as they're not expecting you to pay for the 2nd reception. 

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I agree with Banana.

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• 2bMrsAnderson

  

  October 2009 edited December 2011

  I grew up in IA, my entire extended family is in KS. They all drove 6-8 hours one way to come. And I have driven 6-10 hours for various weddings on both mine and DH's family.I wouldnt call it a destination wedding, and in all honesty those closest to you will come (unless they have a medical condition) I would only have one reception, if your parents friends dont want to drive then fine- thats up to them. To be perfectly honest as a guest, if I wasnt invited to a wedding that was 5 hrs away, but to a local receotion my first thought would be tacky gift grab.

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