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Thank you note SNAFU.

Blynn817Blynn817
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So, My older sister attended my shower sans a gift. I'm trying to write her thank you note and I'm having issues finding the right words. Do I have to send her a thank you for just her attendance or is a thank you note only for gifts? We aren't especially close but I don't want to intentionally tick her off. Any suggestions?
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Re: Thank you note SNAFU.

  • mandasue82mandasue82
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    edited December 2011
    I would still send her one. Even if she didn't bring a gift, she was still there to show her support. I would just say "thank you for being a part of this special day" or something like that.
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  • Blynn817Blynn817
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks, thats what I was thinking and I wrote the note but I started googling the etiquitte (sp?) and everything says only send if there is a gift involved..so now I don't know if I should send or not send. I'll probably send but I don't want it to be a reminder that she didn't bring a gift. Perhaps I'm over thinking this Argghh wedding stress!! XD
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  • K-hartK-hart
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    edited December 2011
    It sucks that your sister came to your shower empty handed. It's good that she came, but she could have even gotten you a $10 gift card. I know this question isn't about the gift giving, but a shower is meant to be "showered" in gifts. So, boo for her! I agree with pp. Just send a thank you letting her know that you appreciate her attending a shower and you are had a wonderful time and you were glad she could join you, blah blah blah. If she receives it and thinks that you are being sarcastic or whatever, then she needs to sincerely grow up. You are sending a thank you becase youbecauseenienlly tgenuinelyor her being there.
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  • K-hartK-hart
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    edited December 2011
    HAHA. I'm not sure what happend with that last part. Lame!
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  • Blynn817Blynn817
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    edited December 2011
    Haha...someone needs to lay off the sauce!! Yeah, She didn't even bring a card...but it's expected from her. She showed up at christmas last year with nothing for our little brother (who is still a kid that doesn't understand) Told him she didn't have money to get him anything then proceeded to ask my mother for wrapping paper so she could wrap the 8 gifts she bought her boyfriend of one month lol. I know it's not about gifts and I'm not like that it's just the way she goes about it. FI told me to write her a note thanking her for the "gift" of her presence haha. I declined doing that in favor of a nice generic note.
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  • aHm08aHm08 member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't have this issue for my shower, but we did have a few guests who did not bring gifts to the wedding (or send them afterward) and some that only brought cards.  I sent thank you cards to them all, to at least thank them for being a part of the day and letting them know it meant a lot to have them there to celebrate with us.  If they gave a card, I thanked them for that too.  I vote for still sending her a card.  If nothing else, kill 'er with kindness.
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