head table whats your feeling about them?

jweis11 · August 2009

so on a lot on other boards lately I have been reading about how a lot of brides hate having a head table and that they think are stupid and from the 80's....I had a head table and honestly any wedding I have ever attending had a head table...just wanted you ladies feelings on them. Not that it matters to me at this point just curious!

New_to_PGH · August 2009

I had a sweetheart table, because I selfishly wanted some alone time with DH when I knew the wedding day would be crazy busy. And I figured everyone else could amuse themselves without us just fine :P * New_to_PGH = selfish bride/host

jweis11 · August 2009

haha..that's coolI don't think you are shelfish...you just love your DH

dreamalotmp · August 2009

I'm a head table fan. I figured that I'd eat with FI/DH alone for the rest of my life, so I wanted to sit with my bridal party. Just my 2 centavos.

KimWard · August 2009

I am with you- all weddings I've ever been to have had a head table. That said, I've been to more traditional weddings. I think the sweet heart table is a new trend. I don't care whether it's from the 80s or not- I had it and thought it worked out fine. Plus I think it was the best way for the room set-up.

npales · August 2009

I hate head tables and do think they are a bit out of style. I am doing a sweetheart. We want our BP to be able to sit with their SOs and I didn't want them to eat while being on display.

julieyarz · August 2009

I plan on doing a sweethear table. I don't want to separate my wedding party from their dates

jweis11 · August 2009

yeah, i def. think the sweet heart table is a new trend and I think it is sweet but I just can't believe how much hatred some people have for the head table. I know if DH or I are in a wedding we will not be sitting with each other for dinner and I and he is ok with that. It is ideal...no, but its not our day so I'm willing to suck it up but it just seem some people really take offense to it.

pinksonya · August 2009

I have mixed feelings. I'd love to let your bridal party sit with their SO's, but I really don't want to sit at a sweetheart table. I don't know what else to do. So, I think we're taking the traditional route on this one.

themissizz · August 2009

We did a head table, mostly because our wedding party members' dates are all friends with each other so it wasn't a big deal for them to be split up. We didn't want to do a sweetheart because we felt uncomfortable being there on display alone and at every wedding we've gone to with a sweetheart table, the bride and groom were constantly being interrupted. I think it's all a matter of personal opinion. I'm not really a fan of either way, we considered seating our BP at two round tables and nixing both the head and sweetheart table ideas.

McBridetobe · August 2009

Not a huge fan of the head tables - I like to be able to sit with my DH when one of us is in a wedding. I hate the table made up of SOs of the BM or GM. I loved our Sweetheart's Table, we really enjoyed our first meal together, plus before and after we ate we got up and visited tables.

Brianne R · August 2009

We did a head table and I like them. I've only been to one wedding where the sweetheart table was done and that was great as well. I think I'd still do a head table though, it's just what I like. It might be a little outdated but I'm a little traditional.

e8jackson6 · August 2009

It's all about personal preference, plus taking your BP into consideration. MY BP were all friends - and their SOs all had friends there to sit with. I wanted us to sit with our BP - they're a really fun group - so we did a head table.A hatred for a head table is pretty ridiculous, IMO.

jweis11 · August 2009

Honestly, I feel whatever the bride and groom want to do. If they want head then I feel you suck it up and do a head table..they want sweet heart then sit where they want youI just never realized there was such a big debate till after I got married..haha

d78 · August 2009

Since we had such a small bridal party, we had spouses & kids sit at the head table with our BMs & GMs. It was fine. I wanted to sit with my peeps since I don't get to see them much. Plus, DH was MIA for a little while (turned out he was helping his gpa), so if we would've done a sweetheart table, I would've been ticked.I'm not that crazy about a head table, either, with the whole "being on display" thing, but I didn't want to split up the bridal party & have to choose who to sit with (parent tables were separate too), so it worked for us.

colleenmclaughlin1 · August 2009

Does seem a little ridiculous that people have STRONG feelings one way or the other, now that you mention it.We're doing a sweetheart table because I want our BP to be able to sit with their dates. the GMs will all sit at one table with their SOs, but my BMs are different. My sister has two kids and her husband, and my other two BMs are bringing dates who won't know anyone else in the room. And we're putting the sweetheart table in the middle of the room, mixed in with the other tables, so I won't feel so much on display.

dreamalotmp · August 2009

I didn't realize there was a debate. I really think that it is all what the bride/groom want and that should be it. Similar to the garter toss and all of that business.

cobrien1976 · August 2009

We are doing a smaller sweet heart table and also larger rounds for the bridal party to sit with their SO's near our table. I wanted to be alone with Scott but we also wanted our bridal party near us but not necessarily long tables with us on display.

jweis11 · August 2009

queen p..agreedI figured on this board and it would just be a preference but some other things i have read like on P&E and some other boards..woo things were getting heated haha

dreamalotmp · August 2009

P & E gets heated if you say "hello". Nuelsi did say that she hates head tables, so we could all scrap with her. :P

dicer2 · August 2009

We did the traditional head table. We were leaning toward a sweetheart table, but my sister said she wanted to sit at a head table so we went with that.

I have to admit, it was pretty cool sitting between my DH and my closest girl friends.

LaFemmeRousse · August 2009

I totally think this is a matter of personal preference, but most of the weddings I've attended or been in have not had a head table. What I've seen a lot lately is a table made up of the bride and groom, mother and father of each, and the best man and maid of honor plus their dates. The rest of the bridal party is at nearby tables with their dates and other close friends or relatives.

skybluejen · August 2009

We had a huge two tiered head table and I loved it. I've only been to one wedding with a sweet heart table, and it was because the bride had a son, so he sat in between the bride and groom at a small table, it was cute. When I'm in a wedding I kind of expect to sit apart from DH, so thats not a big deal to me. Like others said, its just personal preference, I think both are fine!

jweis11 · August 2009

haha...i don't want to scrap with N hehe i knew that this board would look at it logically

npales · August 2009

Apparently it's ridiculous that I hate something. That's not going to change the fact that I hate head tables. If I have to sit in one, I would do it with pleasure and not complain, but it wasn't even something I contemplated for my own wedding.

jweis11 · August 2009

npales: I don't care that you hate them one bit :)In fact, you supported my OP that people have very strong feelings about these things...so thank you

morganphd · August 2009

I usually don't have really strong feelings about a lot of things wedding wise, but I'm with Nuelsi on this one! I HATE head tables. That are really outdated (and not "traditional" that makes it sound fancy and sophisticated, which they're not), or how I think of them, Midwestern. Everytime I've been in or to a wedding in Pgh I've had to sit at one (or have my DH sit at one). Then you end up with the table of SOs can't enjoy the evening with their SO. It always feels weird to sneak up to the head table to stand in front of it to even be able to say hello to your SO. Out here, they just aren't done! Nobody has them anymore, and haven't for years. There was no way that we were going to have a head table. And, you're not on display. Honestly, nobody wants to watch you eat! I loved it just being me and DH, even though we weren't sitting there for very long. . We weren't hungary and used the time to visit each table to table.

morganphd · August 2009

And wow, there were so many typos in that response that I'm not even going to try to fix them. I think you can understand what I was trying to say.

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