registering for $

MaliaMouse · February 2012

How tacky is this? MY FI and I have been together for over 10 years, we have a home, a child, etc. We don't need plates, a mixer, a shower head, etc. What we do need is the financial ability to replenish our savings after we empty it for this wedding. How rude is it to just ask for $? How do people feel about cash as gift websites?

hoffse · February 2012

They're extremely rude, and cash registries usually take a cut of the money that people contribute. People will talk about your tackiness behind your back hard-core if you do this.

Some people (like me) won't give cash no matter what, so you might as well make a small registry for those people so you at least get something that's to your tastes. If the registry is small then many people will get the hint and give you cash without you being rude enough to ask.

Also, you mentioned you have a child. Don't register for things for the child. This is for you and your fiance. If you can't think of anything off the top of your head, at least look through a kitchens section of crate & barrel or williams sonoma for some fun gadgets or maybe replace mismatched or broken dishes and glasses. You can also use this as an opportunity to redecorate a room that you're bored with. Please, ANYTHING but a cash registry. And cash registries include honeymoon, mortgage, and any other registries that solicit guests for money.

hoffse · February 2012

My other piece of advice, even though you didn't ask for it.... PLEASE don't empty your savings for a wedding. It's really REALLY not worth it. Money that you save now is worth so much more in the future. If you are spending enough of your savings to need to rely on your guests' gifts to make up that difference, then you really need to re-think your plan.

jagore08 · February 2012

Why in the world would you register for cash? That's one of the worst ideas I've heard. People know the B&G would prefer cash, everyone prefers cash.

kristinanddan · February 2012

This is going to sound more rude than I intend, but if you have a child, you have no business emptying your savings to pay for a party. Not that anyone should ever do that, but you have more of a reason not to.

Viczaesar · February 2012

Ick.

xobride · February 2012

We're not registering at all and just leaving it up to people to give or not give whatever they want to. Everyone knows our situation and they know we don't need china or linens so we're honestly hoping more people will send money, but we're not planning our wedding based on it. If people want to give money, they will, regardless and if they don't then they won't and whatever you get for gifts can either be put to use or put in the gift closet to pass on to someone else.

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I think you should make a small registry and spread the word that you have made a small registry but you are really saving up for X. That way people can decide what they want to give you.

I really don't see the point of a cash registry it just ads a third party to it that will take a cut of the money you get as gifts.

I really hope you didn't use all your savings for a party for a day, especially since you have a child.

Ali092011 · February 2012

You should never make a direct request for cash. It's rude. If people want to give you their money as a gift, they will.

Also, it's a REALLY lousy idea to go into this spending money you don't have/emptying your savings account. I've seen people on here say they hope to "earn back" the money they spent on the wedding in cash gifts. If this is your attitude about the wedding, you shouldn't be having one, or you should scale back MAJORLY until you're having a wedding you can afford. People who look at their weddings as money-making endeavors are always sorely disappointed.

Cortney1982 · February 2012

I pretty much have everything I need as well but I would NEVER ask for cash. We decided to make a small registry of items for our home that we thought would be nice to have. If people decide they would rather give us money or nothing at all, that is their decision.

Wanting your guests to replinish your savings because you are spending it all on a party is just ridiculous.

AurorasEnvy · February 2012

You really don't need to register for cash, as PPs have suggested everyone likes cash and guests know this. If you really can't think of anything to upgrade in a small registry, just don't have a registry. Some people might go out on a limb and try and pick you out a physical gift, but I think more will just give you cash.

Gustafson28 · February 2012

I dont know... Registering for gifts is still asking for your guests money. The only difference is that they pay the store for the item (plus taxes) where a cash registry they may or may not pay a fee to the company for an item you truly want. If asking for money I tacky, so is registering. It's still a suggestion on what you would like.

micls · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registering-for?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:f492d228-d68f-4fa1-baa3-5fe0bb56781bPost:b0c6f61c-e7c4-4fcb-a1f1-83f8f16655d9">Re: registering for $</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to registering for $ : Why would you spend your savings on a wedding? I'm sorry but that's dumb.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

We're spending our savings on a wedding and honeymoon(more on the honeymoon!) and I don't think it's dumb at all (obviously). These are the kind of experiences I'm saving for.

Kate0558 · February 2012

I don't see a problem with asking for cash... but I would state a reason other then paying for the wedding... You could do a gift registry for some items but not include much and then also ask for cash. Or you could do a honeymoon registry to atleast get money for the honeymoon if not the actual ceremony.

kaceymarie · February 2012

don't register for cash or honeymoon. just make a small gift registry. maybe they will get it and give you cash.

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