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can't do this on my own anymore

mincepiemincepie member
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Hi knotties, Have been planning my wedding here the last few months, less than two months to go and we feel completely exhausted. My mother has been in ICU for about a month now and everything is day by day. I havent spoke with her in over three weeks due to health condition and its hard to cope with. We considered postponing the wedding but family has been pushing my fiance and I to keep everything as planned (we flew over from abroad to have the wedding where my parents live).  Its just so very hard at the moment and my family keeps telling us to take on a wedding planner but I have no idea where to look. I have never heard of anyone using a wedding planner, and although my venue has a cordinator so I know on the day things will be sorted, I am worried to take someone on because I would be completely unavailable to give any imput for our late Sept wedding. I feel like I am in such a rock and a hard place. I really want to postpone but everyone in my family wants us to still have the wedding. My mom has done so much to help put this together and it really hurts to know that she wont be there. Regardless even if police drag me out we have going to the hospital chapel on the day and getting married infront of my mother. What I am asking really is if a wedding planner is the best option then were should I start looking, I am just at a loss on what to do
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  • RissiJ04RissiJ04 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I know this has to be difficult. As for the wedding coordinator... we're using EPN (www.e-p-n.com). They have been fantastic and they will customize a contract specifically to your needs. I already had many vendors selected and there was still so much that they helped with. I hope this helps.
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  • mlh0968mlh0968 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry you are having a rough time.  Your mother's illness is stressful enough, planning a wedding from overseas must feel like it's impossible.  I think a wedding planner sounds like just the right help you need.  I'm sorry I don't know any to recommend, but if you talk to people before you reserve their services you can find someone you like and you can trust to take care of the little things.  Just remember: it's ONE DAY.  Five years from now you probably won't care if the centerpieces weren't exactly right and your guests won't remember that they didn't get fancy favors with your names printed on them.  Your wedding day is about the marriage, and if you can find someone you can talk to and trust to handle things, I think it would be totally worth it.  Good luck!
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  • BrassyClarinetBrassyClarinet
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    edited December 2011
    As much as I don't like the idea of a DOC myself, they exist just for people and situations like yourself! Take the help; you can't let yourself too stressed to where you get sick, too tired, or are just miserable. My FI and I will keep you and your family in our prayers.
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  • taylorhartentttaylorhartentt member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry about everything. We did use a wedding planner and it was a HUGE help. We used heidi at entertainme-de.com and she was great!((hugs)) and you are in my thoughts!
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  • Libbie1Libbie1
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    edited December 2011
    I feel your pain my friend. But your mother? You need to be there for her during this time. Hire a wedding planner, BY ALL MEANS! This is not a sign of weakness, this is a sign of being proactive and doing what's best for you and for mom. Think of all the people you need to be right now- daughter, fiance, sister, aunt, coworker, etc...you do not need to add wedding planner to your list. Get married at the hospital if you have to, but take care of yourself and your mother. The rest will take care of itself :)
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