so about the tremont. i was probably going to end up spending that much money whether i had it there or not. if i went with somewhere else like the visionary art museum or the evergreen house that i loved but that were like blank canvases, i know i would have gone crazy spending money and focusing on every single little detail including like draping fabrics on the ceilings and walls, the linen and china/silverware/stemware, and the catering. i absolutely loved how the rooms looked that i picked and knew i didn't need to do much past that and they included pretty linens and china and such and was hoping that the food would be as good as i thought. they bargained a tiny bit- i added on another hotel room, got one upgraded appetizer, switched out the wine they had for another kind, switched out bud to get yuengling, and waived the fee for the ceremony because they had never said anything about it before i booked. i was really happy with it, and to me it was worth it because as i said, i probably would have ended up spending that amount elsewhere and it was what i wanted. i also had the money to spend, which was a very generous gift from my father, so i don't know if i would have done it if i had to pay for it myself. one of the cinchers of us booking the tremont was that it was so convenient, since all but like 20 of our guests were going to be staying in the hotel, and it was great for people to get to know baltimore. it was definitely worth it to me, but do what's best for you! i hope that helps!!