Thanks to all for the Knottie advice last week. I thought it over throughout the weekend and I decided that my MOH was no longer deserving of this honor. She wanted me to call her last week even though I was not available due to work, etc., but I also wanted to be sure of my decision before I made the call. I decided that if she thought she would be able to come to the wedding, she was welcome to, but that we were going to make other arrangements for the MOH. I left that on her vm. We were in the car all day on Sunday driving back from a wedding and I did not receive a call back. I called again yesterday, and left another vm. Still no response, no call, no email. Meanwhile, I have already replaced MOH 2 with another bridesmaid (who eas excited and delighted - waht a concept!) and we are probably going to ask my BFF guy friend to be the "gentleman of honor." I think former MOH 2 is in the middle, but she's trying to "fix" something that cannot be fixed. This is permanent friendship damange. In all honesty, I have been drifting apart from MOH 1 for a while now, and just haven't wanted to face it. I thought (hoped) that we were transitioning through a phase, but it looks like her lack of interest in our wedding proves how far apart we really are. I'm not even sure if she's going to call back.