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Am I Crazy?!

Michelle WilkenMichelle Wilken member
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Hi Everyone!New to the board and getting married in 15 days at the Wynn (OMG!)Am I crazy in not wanting my mom, grandmom, and aunt to attend my bachorelette party?!  I just had an all out fight with my cousin (who's a bridesmaid) and my mother because I only want my friends to attend.  We're also having a shower the next day so it's not like my relatives are not going to be involved in any of the wedding activities.  Why am I the only one this thinks this is not normal??
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  • jendbikerjendbiker
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Heavens to Betsy NO you're not crazy!! I would have heart attack if they showed up at mine! I told my mom that it's for bachelorettes. She fought me for about 5 minutes and luckily gave in. I promised her that we would have fun some other time before the wedding. It's your wedding, make sure that you do what will make you the happiest. If that decision is ensuring that you keep the peace with your family, then maybe giving in is the right thing to do. However, for me, it's helping my family to understand that there will be things they will not agree with. They will find things that they prefer over my choices for everything from flowers to invitations to music choices... EVERYTHING. You can't make everyone happy. The important thing is making sure you and your fiancee are happy, because it is your special day. I'm sure that your family will understand that, even if it's weeks later! The important thing is keeping calm, and positive when discussing it. Don't let it turn into an argument, simply calmly state your wants, and give them an opportunity to calmly reply back with how it makes them feel. I think that if you have a civil, loving family discussion, you will find a common ground, or they will at least understand why you want what you want.  So go for it, have a "one last hurrah" with the girls before your big day. You are the one that will hold these memories the closest, make them what you want them to be!
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hummm....That's a difficult one! I see your point of it not being a "Family" type activity....Do you already know what the plan is? Could they join for dinner and skip the other 1/2 of the night...i.e....the partying? Oh yeah....Welcome:)
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    edited December 2011
    Actually the more I think about it!Ummm....HECK NO!!...LOL:)
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  • matilda1215matilda1215
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    edited December 2011
    Hey! Welcome! Congrats! Now onto the question.....no you are def. NOT crazy haha.  The only thing that I could think to appease them would to maybe have them at dinner like Stinkerbell suggested. But if you're not doing dinner.....  All I can think is to explain that you're going to let loose....like reallll loose and you'd rather them not have a negative opinion of you....or soemthing along those lines. Plus, you could also throw in "someone's going to need to be sober enough for the shower tomorrow" lol Good Luck :)
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  • mloeksmloeks member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    there is a discussion just like this on ourweddingday.com. i thought the funniest comment was, "invite mom (but someone please tell her NOT to come!).Sadly, my mom keeps mentioning bachelorette party stuff too. I am going to be in this same situation myself in 2 months.
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  • jendbikerjendbiker
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    edited December 2011
    Mloeks,If it's not too late for you to plan, here's what I am planning...Not mentioning the b-party to my mom, i'll tell her about it when it's over! I'm planning that one for about a month or so before the wedding.  But... I KNEW the question would come up as to what I was planning to do "before the wedding", so what I planned was this: his parents and step parents are going to be getting in a couple days before the wedding, my parents/grandparents are too. His mom and step-mom both have a couple "best friends" that have known my fi since he was a little boy. I'm planning a girls night out for us the night before the wedding, and he's going to go out with his dad and step-dad and my dad and my grandfather. This way, everyone has a time and place to feel special, and included, and the girls and boys of the family can have some time to get to know eachother. We're even going to give them special invitations for it. It'll just be a night of laughs, advice, and story-telling.
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  • Ray_RayRay_Ray member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'm being greedy and ending up with 3! One in London for my close friends- we are going to go for lunch then cocktails and then to a roller disco club. (one of my BM is convinced I'm going to break my leg). I'm having a night out in my hometown the week before that while he is away on his stag night, to which I am inviting friends that aren't so close and his family. Then we re having stag and hen nights in Vegas 2 nights before the wedding that will include all of our guests- parents includedHa ha, it's all about me me me!
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  • huff4099huff4099
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    edited December 2011
    It is you wedding and you should do what you want. I personaly can't imagne not having my mother attend...she is one of my best friends.
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