Classy or Redneck?!

LnL60810 · December 2012

Our wedding is 07-06-13 which just so happens to be the weekend that everyone is considering July 4th weekend. Would it be poor form to have it like a "cookout"? I guess the better question is would 2 liters/cans be okay? I want to put them in galvanized tubs w/ ice.

JaxInBlue · December 2012

What feel do you and your FI want for your wedding? If you want something casual and less formal then I think a cook out is a great idea. If you want a more formal feel for your wedding, though, I don't think a cook out and drinks in galvanized tubs matches that. If you want a more formal wedding, a cook out for the rehearsal dinner might make more sense.

sarabellam · December 2012

Where do you find 2 liter bottles of beer, NYUgirl?

Gabrielle76 · December 2012

I feel like people who want to get plastered will do it weather they get the drinks from tubs or from a bartender. I guess it gives the bartender the option to refuse service, but that can get awkward/messy fast.

OP, if you and your FI are happy with a casual day, then that's a great idea. Just make sure everything is properly hosted (no pot-lucks, etc.).

lindsaynewbride10 · December 2012

You also need to be aware that planning your wedding on what will be a holiday weekend means that a good number of people will not attend. That's just how it is.

StephJean83 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]You also need to be aware that planning your wedding on what will be a holiday weekend means that a good number of people will not attend. That's just how it is.
Posted by lindsaynewbride10[/QUOTE]

I agree with Edie on this, that as long as people know in advance, they will probably come. I also think with this coming 4th of July being on a Thursday, a lot of people will take off work on Friday and have a 4 day weekend, which could help her turn out. I have a wedding ON JULY 4TH, but I know it is coming and am planning for it.

courtski2004 · December 2012

I think that 2 liters/cans=soda in this case. As I started to think about beer in the 2 liter quantity, I couldn't help but think about 'Edward 40-hands parties'

sarabellam · December 2012

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[QUOTE]I have to admit, I did not understand what she means about 2 liters/cans -- and I think I said that. I do think having serve your self tubs, if that iincludes beer, can be dangerous and would highly recommend a professional server.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

You assumed she meant beer. If, in fact, the OP is having beer and is providing it on a self-serve basis, it MIGHT be a problem, depending on her crowd. If you assume that the OP is referring to soft drinks/soda/pop/however you happen to refer to it, the professional server might be a bit of overkill.

Liane28 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]Our wedding is 07-06-13 which just so happens to be the weekend that everyone is considering July 4th weekend. Would it be poor form to have it like a "cookout"? I guess the better question is would 2 liters/cans be okay? I want to put them in galvanized tubs w/ ice.
Posted by LnL60810[/QUOTE]

Wedding date twin! :)

Also, FWIW, the best wedding reception I've ever been to was a cookout/barbecue. I definetly don't think it's in poor form. They had made it very country/chic, outdoors, very well hosted and everyone had a great time.

Peledreamsofrain · December 2012

In Response to Re:Classy or Redneck?!:[QUOTE]What feel do you and your FI want for your wedding?nbsp; If you want something casual and less formal then I think a cook out is a great idea.nbsp; If you want a more formal feel for your wedding, though, I don't think a cook out and drinks in galvanized tubs matches that.nbsp; If you want a more formal wedding, a cook out for the rehearsal dinner might make more sense. Posted
by JaclyneD[/QUOTE]

X2 excellent ideas

s-aries8990 · December 2012

As long as that's the feel you are going for and other elements of the wedding match (like don't have BMs in floor length gowns, no tuxes, etc) that your ideas should be fine. Also, I agree to check with reception venue regarding liquor distribution if you're serving alcohol.

Jen4948 · December 2012

A cookout with 2 liter cans in ice would work fine if you're having an informal, casual-style wedding.

bunni727 · December 2012

We had cans in tubs and it worked great. 2 liters really slow down the line with people waiting to pour.

Oh, and it's nice if you could have a hand towel in your colors hanging from the handle, so people can dust off ice pieces or dry off the cans.

Avion22 · December 2012

I think a barbecue with self-serve soda and/or beer out of a gavanized tub woud be fine. Definitely check with your venue about alchohol policies though (or if you're having the event at your home or someone else's home, check your insurance policy carefully and consider buying extra coverage).

As for a wedding on 4th of July weekend, I think it should work fine. You should check with your VIPs first (parents, siblings, etc) to make sure they are free. Sending save-the-dates out 6-9 months in advance will also help people make travel plans, get time off from work, etc. And, if you can, try to block rooms at a hotel if you have a lot of out-of-towners coming in. You'll get them a better rate, and hopefully you won't have to deal with hotels filling up for the holiday weekend.

LnL60810 · December 2012

Sorry about the confusion. We aren't having alcohol. It will solely be soda & water in the galvanized tubs. My Fi's family tends to get tipsy & ready to fight with alcohol. Thanks for the idea on the towels hanging on the side. The grooms/groomsmen will be in bowties & vests with no jacket & the bridesmaids will be in jersey dresses from DB. I'm not asking for a black tie formal affair. That would NEVER go with our personality. Lol. Thanks again for the input. You guys are awesome!

arco13 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]Sorry about the confusion. We aren't having alcohol. It will solely be soda & water in the galvanized tubs. My Fi's family tends to get tipsy & ready to fight with alcohol. Thanks for the idea on the towels hanging on the side. The grooms/groomsmen will be in bowties & vests with no jacket & the bridesmaids will be in jersey dresses from DB. I'm not asking for a black tie formal affair. That would NEVER go with our personality. Lol. Thanks again for the input. You guys are awesome!
Posted by LnL60810[/QUOTE]

From their attire, that sounds great! I think as long as you communicate to guests that it's a bbq what you're planning sounds awesome!

mcda04 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]You also need to be aware that planning your wedding on what will be a holiday weekend means that a good number of people will not attend. That's just how it is.
Posted by lindsaynewbride10[/QUOTE]

I disagree, I actually think more people will show up because it's a long weekend. My BIL is getting married on Memorial Day weekend and i love it.

[Deleted User] · December 2012

Sounds awesome. I went to a BBQ wedding this year (not in a backyard, but still fairly simple/homey) and it was DELICIOUS. Everyone loved it.

FWIW, I'd go with cans. As other said, 2 liter bottles can slow down a line and they can also go flat from constant opening/closing. Another option, if cans start to get expensive, is to get little drink dispenser things (a la this) and make up lots of lemonade and iced tea. You can make it all in advance, put it into 2 liter jugs you save, and just refill them as necessary.

MyNameIsNot · December 2012

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[QUOTE]You also need to be aware that planning your wedding on what will be a holiday weekend means that a good number of people will not attend. That's just how it is.
Posted by lindsaynewbride10[/QUOTE]

<div>Not necessarily. Unless a lot of the guest list has standing plans to travel over July 4, the Saturday following doesn't mean they'll decline. For people without standing plans, it might even make it easier to come. It's not on the actual 4th of July. </div><div>
</div><div>I agree that I would do cans over 2 liters. There's the line issue, and you also avoid people having to think about other people handling the bottle, people's hand in the ice and then the ice in your cup, etc. </div><div>
</div><div>I went to a wedding like this a couple of years ago, but it was more of a picnic than a BBQ. I loved the "country chic" gingham table clothes and daisy center pieces. </div>

aquari0216 · December 2012

yeah so did my cousin...and EVERYONE made it....his was also July3...

aquari0216 · December 2012

oh and if that's your dream for your reception by all means.....enjoy it

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