This weekend I went dress shopping with my BMs (first time all the girls have been together), and my MOH was a pretty pushy/condescending to the other girls. Ie, bragging about being MOH and knowing me for so long, being pushy to the other girls about what she *thinks* I want (which is not at all what I want), bragging about how well she knows my mom (who she's met like 4 times), being snippy to the consultants, etc... I warned the other girls ahead of time that she might be like this but I was hoping she wouldn't be. After shopping, my FSIL (one of my BMs, who has really low self-esteem) told me she doesn't feel she deserves to be in WP b/c she hasn't been in my life as long as the other girls - based on what my MOH had said.
I know my MOH has the best intentions and doesn't realize how she comes off to everyone. Am I out of line to have a talk with her about it, like adults? I just want to remind her that everyone is on her side, not against her, and the other girls are just as good of friends to me as she is so there is no need to brag about being MOH. I don't want my FSIL to feel so bad about being involved in the wedding, and while the other girls are very tolerant (they just snicker and eyeroll between each other) it would be nice if everyone would get along as I know they can.