I made a big boo boo

stina93446 · August 2009

We are 3 weeks away from the wedding and my girls are wearing black knee length dresses. I put "Black tie optional" on the invite....eek! What a doofus. (In my defense, in my hometown, if you don't stress to dress nice, people show up in hawaiian shirts, khakis and jeans.)

jeannigirl · August 2009

Don't worry that will mean that they know its a dressy affair and not to come casual. If anyone calls to ask you can let them know what you are referring to. Suits and such. I think majority of people should be able to figure it out. I

stina93446 · August 2009

I mean, I think that by saying "optional" people know that we aren't requiring long dresses. I know both the moms are wearing evening gown type dresses.

BeenthereDonethat04 · August 2009

You know, when I married my ex, my cousin's kids showed up in jean shorts and tank tops to our formal wedding. It was interesting, but no one was looking at them anyway:)

BeenthereDonethat04 · August 2009

If I saw "Black tie optional" I'd probably wear a shorter (knee length) formal-like dress, nothing super fancy. I usually dress up for weddings, but I don't think to wear gowns unless it would specifically say that formal attire was expected.

stina93446 · August 2009

BTDT, they were kids so I think people would be thinking about how the parents should have told them to dress better. If an adult shows up to a black tie optional event in jeans/flip flops, people will definitely be talking at my wedding. Not me, but my mom will be one of those rolling her eyes.

stina93446 · August 2009

Okay good. I was just afraid that my bms were too informal. iI just wanted them to be comfortable and sleek.

stina93446 · August 2009

I should be more clear retread. There are a select few (cough my uncles cough) who are just tacky. A wedding is a formal event and I know MOST people know that. However, if it was not on the invite, I know my mom would be biitching about it for forever. They all know HOW to dress, they just think that they don't need to. I find it a little disrespectful. My mom is still biitching about the random date that my step uncle brought to her wedding 25 years ago who caught the bouquet. Everytime we talk about her wedding she has to say, "I don't even know that effing girl's name. You're not supposed to catch the bouquet at someone's effing wedding that you don't know."

stina93446 · August 2009

I feel bad. I know the only thing I can do now is forget about it. I hope no one thinks I was too rude.

stina93446 · August 2009

True true. I just thought I was doing so good. In the end, I am giving them a sit down dinner (steak and salmon) and a big band in a ballroom.....pretty nice. I think they can overlook my faux pas.

bablingbrooke · August 2009

My friend had a very formal black-and-white themed wedding and put on the invites that the attire was black tie and they requested guests try to dress to the theme. Her redneck relatives (her words, not mine) still showed up in camos, ripped jeans, and cowboy hats. People will be people, ya know?

ffmaid · August 2009

Well honestly if I got your invite as a guest I would think I shoudl wear a long gown and my dh woudl wear his tux( which is what you told your guests to do) and I would feel foolish when I got to your wedding and saw taht we were dressed nicer then the wedding party. I think you need to do damage control and put semiformal on your wedding website and put it out word of mouth that you meant semiformal not black tie optional and I woudl consider if you can afford it buying a black tie dress for each of your bm.

ffmaid · August 2009

Oh and FYI this is not the end of the world just likely to cause uncomfortable moments for instead of for your rude guests but uncomfortable for the ones that are polite and listened to you on dress code

AdelaC · August 2009

Stina,Honestly, I've received several black tie-optional invitations, and it was exactly that...OPTIONAL. I have worn Cocktail dresses to every wedding, and it has never been an issue. Your wedding guests will NOT harp on that option. Promise.Typically at the black-tie optional weddings the older the age the fancier the outfit...ie bride's aunt wore a long gown, and the bride's friends wore cocktail dresses. For a ballroom event, no one will feel out of place with a mix of long and short dresses! I think you were being thoughtful writing that note with your guests' comfort in mind. The rule is (or at least how I was raised) It is better to overdress for the event then to underdress!

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