no gift or card

sassygal22 · August 2009

This post is coming out of curiosity from a post yesterday about giving thank you's for no gift or card. If you were going to a wedding, and didn't have either, would a) not go b) send a gift later c) just hope they wouldn't notice.

stina93446 · August 2009

Send a gift later, although there is no way I would ever not send one before the wedding.

atobias1 · August 2009

um. I didn't see the post yesterday but I don't know why anyone would go to a wedding without at least a card.... this thought baffles me.

mandysmear · August 2009

I'd never go to a wedding without a gift, unless of course I sent it ahead of time.

ggmae · August 2009

I'd do what I could to send a gift beforehand or bring one the day of, but if money was tight then I'd bring a card to the wedding and send a gift as soon after the wedding as I could.

gkb0910 · August 2009

Ditto Mandy. But in my circle, checks are the norm for weddings, so I always bring a card.

ffmaid · August 2009

Depends why do I not have a gift or card? 1. forgot at home- I woudl send later 2. too poor - I would at least buy a card or do a letter 0of good wishes3. not sure wedding is going to last a year- I would send a gift near the year mark if still together

sassygal22 · August 2009

See I think cards are more personal than gifts, and I save all of my cards. I was just wondering, as a lot of people did come without either, and I am not sure if is because people do really wait a whole year to send them out.

Golfer'sLady · August 2009

I always ship gifts prior to the wedding.But if for some reason I didn't... I would get online immediately and order a gift off of the registry to ship to their home. Or I'd get a card and cash/write check at the grocery store.There is no excuse not to ship or scrounge up something.

ootmother2 · August 2009

I used to always send 6 Tiffany champagne flutes to a couple. A couple of times I checked for a registry although I considered the Tiffany champagne flutes my "trademark" gift.M told me to consider cash my 'trademark" gift and I have followed her advice ever since.Her friends all love me now.

ffmaid · August 2009

OOT - One thing to consider a friend of mine does this is she folds a $100 into a rose for the couple as her signature gift http://www.lisashea.com/japan/origami/or_rose.html

ootmother2 · August 2009

too cute!I'm all thumbs but perhaps I will give it a try next wedding.Thanks

torontobride17 · August 2009

I usually send a gift ahead of time but if I didn't, I'd definitely bring a card with cash the day of. Off topic: Uggh. I just went through the whole process of registering this week and then my aunt asked what my living room colour scheme was. I fear she is buying us something weird we don't want.

NicoleSahara · August 2009

It's like my mom said. "Bringing a gift feels like my ticket to get into the wedding." I would never come to a wedding emptyhanded, and would at the very least bring a card that says "Your gift will be coming soon!" Though I, too, did have people come to my wedding sans gift or card. And not broke people, either. And yes, I judge them. Call me an entitled brat.

ggmae · August 2009

Nicole - We had a few guests show up with no card/gift and they didn't send them afterwards either. I judge them too, so I guess we are both entitled brats. ;-)

sassygal22 · August 2009

half our bridal party didn't even bring a card, which hurt me very deeply. I get not bringing presents, especially in this economy, but not even a card? That hurt me terribly. But my husband says that guys just dont think about those type of things (it was all his side) I still fume about it, especially now since his BM is having a birthday party and the suggested donation is 100 per a person.

NicoleSahara · August 2009

Ugh, Sassy, I know what you mean. My own sister/MOH didn't even give me a card for the wedding! It was just weird.

Leah&Christian09 · August 2009

not sure wedding is going to last a year- I would send a gift near the year mark if still together I wonder if this is why so many people came to our wedding and didn't send a gift or a card...I would bring a card, and say "free dinner on me"

tlv204 · August 2009

Though I, too, did have people come to my wedding sans gift or card. And not broke people, either. And yes, I judge them. Call me an entitled brat.I'm an entitled brat too. I judged. I was honestly surprised at the number of people who didn't bring anything.

coleandalexia2010 · August 2009

Sassy - really? a suggested donation of 100 for a birthday present? Tacky, much. The nerve of some people.

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