Dairy-free dinner

Re: Dairy-free dinner

• Wiscisbliss

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Do the best you can.  Many people with dietary restrictions plan ahead at large events and bring their own food/snacks.
  
  If you serve a dinner that has a nice salad (milk free) and rolls (probably milk free, just serve butter on the side) that is something.  Many reception halls allow two entrees for no extra charge (especially if one is vegetarian, or gluten free) maybe your venue can work with you? 

  

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• ginadog member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  Wow, I am LI and I thought it was rare to be both intolreant and allergic!
  
  Usually I just avoid those foods I know would have dairy.  I don't go to events starving because there is a chance I cannot have something.  Will anything be dairy free (like a veggie and a piece of meat)?

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• Onoyu member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  We already spoke with our baker and our wedding pies will be butter/dairy free with the exception of the pumpkin. We're also having some vegetables and a small portion of meat so she won't be too hungry. The rolls, as most dinner rolls do, contain dairy. I suppose we could ask for her portion of non dairy foods be a little larger to make up for it. I'll ask my caterer about that extra thing. I guess she aready realized we had a few things she could have and that's why she waved it off.
  
  And yes, it is rare. She has always been LI but developed an allergy suddenly in college. The doctors couldn't believe it at first and kept testing her to see if she was pregnant before giving in and trying a rather expensive milk allergy test.

  

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• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I am all about being a gracious host when it comes to food allergies and special diets, but if you've been asking her what you need to do to accommodate her and she keeps "waving you off" that's her problem at that point.  

  
  

  Make her a plate at home using stuff you know she can eat and ask the venue to warm it up before dinner is served if she won't make an effort to help you help her. 

  
  

  Sorry if that seems harsh, but if she wants something else, she needs to entertain you when you ask her what to do. 

  
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• jessicabessica member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I have a friend with way more allergies than that, and I sent her a list of what will be offered at our reception (it's a buffet) and asked her to pick what she would like and list her restrictions (no butter, corn, nuts, limited spices, etc.).  I sent my venue coordinator her requests--basically some of the things we're offering cooked plainly--and the kitchen will prepare a separate plate of food for her.  

  
  

  I would just tell your MOH that she is important to you, and you want to accomodate her, and do something similar--she might just benefit from knowing the menu beforehand and the exact ingredients, or she might request special items (like veggies plain without butter).  I don't really see avoiding all dairy as being a giant obstacle, but I can understand that when you have allergies, it can be easier just to avoid eating when you're not sure rather than seeming whiny or picky--let your friend know that you want her to have a good meal at the wedding and it's not a burden for you.  

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• FaithCaitlin member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_dairy-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:2845e08d-5cac-472f-a008-ab1e4d01514dPost:0c4ca45a-f10c-4362-a7f5-05eb277bd6f2">Re: Dairy-free dinner</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have a friend with way more allergies than that, and I sent her a list of what will be offered at our reception (it's a buffet) and asked her to pick what she would like and list her restrictions (no butter, corn, nuts, limited spices, etc.).  I sent my venue coordinator her requests--basically some of the things we're offering cooked plainly--and the kitchen will prepare a separate plate of food for her.   I would just tell your MOH that she is important to you, and you want to accomodate her, and do something similar--she might just benefit from knowing the menu beforehand and the exact ingredients, or she might request special items (like veggies plain without butter).  I don't really see avoiding all dairy as being a giant obstacle, but I can understand that when you have allergies, it can be easier just to avoid eating when you're not sure rather than seeming whiny or picky--let your friend know that you want her to have a good meal at the wedding and it's not a burden for you.  
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• TurtlesAllTheWayDown member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I would imagine an experienced caterer can make a dairy-free plate. She's probably not the first vegan or lactose-intolerant guest they've had.

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• peanutty2 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  You're caterer should not have a problem making a dairy free meal.  I would speak to them about it.  They don't need to have every single thing be dairy free, but she should at least get an entree.  Just let her know that you'll speak to the caterer and have a seperate dairy free entree made for her and that's that.  She may choose to bring something or eat before she comes anyway, but at least you and she will know there is a meal for her.

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• jmh447 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree, just ask the caterer to make a seperate dish for her. I recently attened an event in which I received an award (similar to being MOH, perhaps) and as a long time vegetarian, I had the foresight to ask in advance if there would be a veggie friendly dish. I was told there was not, but that if I needed one, they would make it, and they did.  It stinks to feel left out because of your diet, so the fact that you want to go this extra length to help your friend is super awesome. Explain that to her, and that it won't be a big deal to get a separate plate for her, and I'm sure she'll be more willing to help you!

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