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Prayers of the Faithful- deceased relatives

darlingcdarlingc
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I wanted to do something to honor our deceased relatives, and I thought I would mention them in a prayer... "For all those who have died including XXX, YYY, XYZ, and all those who could not be with us today" but then I didn't know who to include!

If you are recognizing family members who have died, how far back did you go? At first I was thinking just those I was close to (Grandmother, uncle, cousin) but is that disrespectful to my great-grandmother who I knew as a young child? If I do only people I met, is that disrespectful to my great-grandfather (whose wife I would be recognizing) who died just before I was born?

Do I just leave out the names?
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    I would leave the names out unless it was someone very close to you or someone who died very recently.

    We did not mention any specific names, but we listed our deceased grandparents in the program.

    My cousin's father died about 8 years ago, so she is including him.  I think for a while she was also going to include her deceased grandparents, but she felt like she was starting to get too many names, so she only included her dad.
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    We included my mom, and our grandparents. H had an uncle pass away somewhat unexpectedly a couple of weeks before the wedding, so at the last minute, we added him as well. I would probably only include a great-grandparent if you had a relationship with her.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    We mentioned FILs name during the Prayers of the Faithful.  We chose to put our grandparents in the program.  I would keep the list of names you read during the Prayers of the Faithful short and to those you had a very close relationship with.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    We didn't mention any people in ours. We just had that part say, "for all those who have gone before us."

    For me the deaths of my Grandma and Poppy were just too fresh and my H had just lost his uncle. As hard as it was to not have them there, I didn't need the the extra reminder of their names in the middle of the ceremony. They were in our hearts and they know they were missed.

    My cousin read the Prayer of the Faithful for us and as soon as I asked him, he asked me, "We aren't mentioning any names are we?" because he knew he wouldn't be able to read our Grandma's name and remain composed.

    I think this is something that is personal and you can choose to go any route that it best for you. My preist was very understanding and agreed with us on this decision.

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  • Tami87Tami87 member
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    edited October 2012
    We included only the names of our grandparents (4 total that are deceased). As previous posters mentioned is really up to you how many and if you want to mention loved ones by name.
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