dress reassurance?

lacebride · August 2009

Hi all,I need your help.My mom bought my dress for me after I had picked it out in the shop. I loved it - I had chosen it, after all. However since I have shown people pictures they've been underwhelmed by the dress. It's not poofy or anything, but I do think it's lovely and understated. Still, I have this nagging feeling like maybe I made a mistake? I don't want to be invisible at my wedding. Honest opinions would be very much appreciated. Please note that the dress is too tight at the back now, and that I'm standing on a stool. I'll change the neckline so that it's modfied sweetheart. Thanks!www.walkingtothechuppah.blogspot.com(sorry I don't know how to attach photos)

bridesrighthand · August 2009

I'm going to be completely honest with you. I don't like it at all. I think it does nothing for your figure. I can tell you have a nice shape, and that dress just doesn't flatter you. I really wanted to be able to say "It's gorgeous" but I can't.

THat said, IF YOU feel good in it, then that is all that matters. YOU are the one wearing it. Good luck!

kls114 · August 2009

Honestly I don't think it is terrible but I do agree with the pp that it does nothing for you. But if you love it that is all that matters. Don't worry about "wowing" people. When is your wedding? Was your dress expensive? If you don't love it maybe you can try to sell it and start searching for something else if you have the time. HTH & GL!

veronabrit · August 2009

i like the idea of altering the neckline. Just remember what you loved about it in the first place. The dress is for you not for anyone else. all that matters is that YOU love it.

*tinkertoy* · August 2009

I think the dress is really pretty but it also looks like you are unimpressed just by your body language. Maybe once you get it altered you will feel beautiful in it?Good luck!

alliecarrie41 · August 2009

no matter what you wear, you'll never "be invisable" at your own wedding... you are the bride. you could wear a potato sack and everyone would come up to you and tell you how lovely you look. not a huge fan of the dress, but i also like it's simplicity. i think the veil is too much, and altering the neckline to a modified sweetheart might look really nice on you. i also don't like the way the back fits; it's either too tight or not tied correctly?

Brie2010 · August 2009

I hate to say it, but since you wanted honest opinions, I agree with the PPs. I think the sweetheart neckline will help, but I think the problem is that it's just not a flattering shape on your body. It makes you look very straight-up-and-down and doesn't give you any shaper or curves. It has nothing to do with how poufy or grandiose the dress is--there are some lovely and striking dresses without giant trains and tons of tulle. I also really dislike the veil. The ruffle is terrible, sorry.

lilmit · August 2009

Loose the veil and I think it will be fine.

*May10Mrs* · August 2009

I think it is pretty, but I cannot get past the veil, I think the veil is all wrong. I do agree with what was said earlier, that if you loved it then and you love it now...go with it! I personally just do not like the veil...it is "too much" IMO. good luck

cvl105 · August 2009

I think the dress is pretty, and maybe once it's properly fitted, it'll fit your shape better. But definitely, don't do that veil. It's way to much and way to different for your simple, elegant dress.

chasegl · August 2009

I think the dress is very pretty and feminine. And I can see why you picked that veil - it matches the ruffling in the front of the dress. I don't think the dress is super simple. It has a lot of delicate details. You will not be invisible, and I can pretty much guarantee that your fiance will not be underwhelmed when you wear that dress.Go with what you love, not what people react to.

LuckyBride9.19.09 · August 2009

omg it isnt that bad at all! all these girls are saying its terrible and what not its really not bad! i have seen a million brides in something simple, and actually i have been doubting my own dress. my dress is big and poofy, i freaking LOVED it when i put it on but then i noticed everyone gets these simple little elegant gowns and grew self concious about my dress

lol! i will be honest and say you shouldnt wear that veil but trust me, once your hair and make up is done and you have the dress fitted and everything you will look and feel like a million bucks! buy a different veil and it will look way better. i think your dress is very pretty and you liked it for some reason when you got it! congrats! you look good int hat dress. if you dont love it look around some more and sell that one! ps- i fell in love with my dress all over again when i decided i am going to look different considering i havent seen it on any other bride but me! lol

a2crane · August 2009

Definitely go with what you love!!! I think that the gown actually has a lot of really gorgeous details. I think that making it into a sweetheart neckline will be the finishing touch that you need. Have you considered wearing it without straps? You will not be invisible at your wedding, instead you will look stunning in a gown that you won't regret wearing 20 years from now

I do agree with others that the veil may not be the perfect one for the gown. Other than that, it is fabulous!!! Don't listen to others' opinions...listen to your gut!

Vikki2pay · August 2009

I think the dress is actually pretty, but I do agree with pp, the it does nothing for your figure, it's not flattering, but that could just be because it dosen't fit properly.I think a modified sweetheart neckline would look great, and you really need to lose the veil, it doesn't work with the dress.Maybe a crinoline under the skirt would give it a little more volume and give you a little more of a shape.

junelley · August 2009

I agree with the pps about the veil. Don't wear it! It looks.. hm... dated and it's just too much going on combined with the dress. The dress itself is pretty, especially the back. The fit right now does seem a little off, and I don't know how much it can be fitted to suit your body better but I am thinking that once the dress is fitted to suit your body, you'll look lovely.

sweetpigtail · August 2009

no... I don't think the dress is bad at all.... The veil has to go though!!! Also... I think if you put some crinoline in, it should help with the shape of the skirt and make you look a bit more curvy. Try that.

lacebride · August 2009

Thanks so much to all of you! I really appreciate every one of your comments, the good and the bad! If you ask you have to be prepared for that, right?By way of background, the dress will be made to measure by the designer, so if I want anything about it changed I can ask for that. It costs about $2400, and I won't get another dress even if I doubt mine because my mom paid for it and because I personally care more about items for our home and our photography - though I totally support other brides who do that. This is just my personal feeling. I wasn't sure about the veil myself - I liked the simple edged veils the best so thanks for confirming what I felt as well! As for the back of the dress, it is definitely too tight - the sample was too small and the sales person pulled it way too tight at the back, which has affected the front as well. The joys of sample sizing! I looked at it again with fresh eyes tonight and I agree with those that said it isn't terrible even if it doesn't fit perfectly now. I still love it, and hopefully after it will be made to fit me perfectly it'll feel better. I think I will wear it without the straps actually - it doesn't show it the picture but I like my neckline and will wear my hair up so it will show more.Thanks to all of you - I wish I could address all your posts individually. I really appreciate how you shared your dress stresses with me and your own concerns - that means a lot and is really helping me gain perspective.I'm not sure when your weddings are and whether you'll still be on the Knot, but I'll definitely post fitting pics so you can see how it (hopefully!) comes along! Thanks again!

Spim7 · August 2009

I think that the dress will work fine. I saw someone else with a similar dress who changed the straight cut neckline to a sweetheart and the difference was amazing. One other change you could make that would be easy and add a little extra to the dress is changing the sash color and the way you have it tied. I think it'll be beautiful and you'll look great.

bridesrighthand · August 2009

After looking at it again, I do think it will be MUCH better without that veil and once it's altered. The ruffles are really pretty on it. I can't wait to see how it looks once it's all done. I'm sure you're going to be gorgeous and you will NOT be invisible.

mbcdefg · August 2009

I think the sweetheart neckline will help it "pop" a bit more on you. I agree, ditch the lace veil in favor of a plain cut-edge one, or maybe see if a veil with some subtle sparkles on it would work better. I'd also try on a cathedral or waltz-length veil and see if that looks better. Are you dead-set on keeping those spaghetti straps? I think that those, coupled with the lace, is giving me a bit of a "little girl's dress" vibe, so maybe think about going strapless. But I think the sweetheart neckline adjustment could help fix that for me, if you want to keep the straps. Would you also consider having it altered to more of a mermaid shape? I also think you could try some really flashy earrings and a hairpiece, and maybe a big bracelet, to add some ooomph to the outfit. Maybe you could also play around with that ribbon at the bustline - maybe try a different color, like a soft pink? Maybe even add a bit of crystal or a brooch to the ribbon. I'm thinking along the lines of the ribbon on the "Dallas Marie" dress from Maggie Sottero: http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=dallas&keywordType=any&page=0&pageSize=12&style=J1127Overall I think it's a really pretty dress, and you cut a very nice figure in it. I don't think you need to start over from scratch - it just seems like it needs a little tweaking to look just right. Good luck!

fuller10 · August 2009

I actually really love it (minus the veil) I think it's a beautiful dress! You will look stunning on the day of your wedding! Remember that!

kjane12 · August 2009

Really, I agree with the second half of the post, and I honestly think it's a beautiful dress. You are right, the veil can be replaced, but there is a lot of simplicity in the shape that is elegant, and lacy details that keep it interesting. It's beautiful, you will look great on your wedding day.

h.grant3 · August 2009

Personally I love it!! It's not anything like the dress I bought but I do love it and I love that it is kind of different with the fabric choices. That said; you need to loose the veil, it cuts your right in half which is never flattering on anyone. I think you need to try it on at home and get some good photos by a friend that is great at photography.You will look lovely on your wedding day no matter what your dress looks like.

jilliibabii · August 2009

I think the dress is really pretty. ITA that it's not flattering your figure and the veil isn't working. Lose the veil altogether and get it a little bit more fitted. Talk to your seamstress about making it an even slimmer a-line, maybe even a modified mermaid/trumpet shape and it'll look hott!

vjcjenn1 · August 2009

dress is pretty...but the look is bad...get rid of the veil, I'm actually not sure what kind of veil to replace it with but the ruffles there hit in all the wrong spots.The dress, I would like the spaghetti straps to go, so either strapless or actually thicker straps...what color are your BM's wearing...I think a pretty sash or ribbon in a standout color would make the dress perfect.

vjcjenn1 · August 2009

is it the pronovios halifax that you mention in a previous post...the dress in the blog you posted here looks very outdoor country style wedding but the one from the other post is much more elegant

lacebride · September 2009

You've all given me such good ideas - thank you so very much! I'll definitely get rid of the straps and make it sweetheart. I think that will give it more of a grown up look as I agree looking back that it's too little girl like just now - the poster who said that hit the nail on the head. I think I'll get a plain cord-edged veil as I veered towards that in the shop but was talked out of it. Thanks for the honesty!I bought a gorgeous vintage looking headpiece to wear with the dress (after I take my veil off) so that will give everything a much more 30s feel. I put photos of it on the blog if anyone wants to see. You've given me some really interesting ideas to explore with the seamstresses and the designer, and I will take notes with me. I'm looking forward to showing you how it advances. THANK YOU to all of you for being great!

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