Thoughts?

Kfudge0714 · July 2011

so my FI and I have been talking alot about our concern that our guests will be late to our wedding! Our wedding is on a Friday night in June in New Hampshire and all of our family will be coming from Mass. There is always tons of traffic due to the weekend vacationers. So we are considering intentionally putting a half hour early on our invitations!

what are your thoughts? a little white lie never hurt anybody right?

kpkeaney · July 2011

Will they be traveling Rte 93? I would assume that most of your guests are fully aware of the traffic nightmare that can be on a Friday night and would plan accordingly. If you put an earlier time on the invite you'll probably have a bunch of people waiting around = unhappy!

Kfudge0714 · July 2011

Yes, they will be traveling up 93! I guess I should have added that my FI family is late for everything!

cg-pm52111 · July 2011

I would not lie and put a different time. They will be aware of the problem and make the proper arrangements. And if they don't, there's nothing you can do about it.

As a side story, my dad did this to my uncle on year at Chrismas because he was always late. Well, for once he showed up on time and he was pissed. Not good.

HTH!

dhdaydream · July 2011

I agree with PPs.

Guests will typically plan accordingly when going to a special event like a wedding. I think if you put an earlier time and guests do show up early, they will just be waiting around which won't be good either.

caseyhaynes429 · July 2011

I wouldnt do it...I am never late for anything so I would find it very rude to show up over a half hour early just to be sure everyone is there on time. Just spead the word through family and friends about how nightmarish the traffic is on Fridays and I'm sure they'll plan better for it they hadn't considered the traffic already.

DrPB2b13 · July 2011

I would not do it - on the off-chance they make it on time, they could be very deeply offended. They are adults and they are responsible for making their own arrangements. I realize this is the time it affects you the most, but you're still not responsible for their tardiness. I would definitely check with your venues and other vendors though, to make sure there will be no penalties in the event you need to delay events.

elizabeth918 · July 2011

I agree with the other girls. Though it may seem tempting, it's still a lie, and may offend people. I think that hard as it may be, this is one of those times that you have to hope that people can plan ahead and be prepared.

If you have a wedding website, you could always put a little 'heads up!' on there, and try to mention it when you see people, but I wouldn't put an incorrect time.

mariegra · July 2011

Yeah, I wouldn't do it. We are offering guests shuttle service, and I just HOPE that our friends make it to the shuttle on-time. I emphasized in the invites that they needed to be 'on board' by 2:20, (shuttle leaves about 2:30).

For those who are driving, I just hope they allow enough time. I think it is extremely rude to be late, but we'll just have to deal with it if they are.

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