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Holy Cow!! 9 days left!?!

nkw003nkw003
in Iowa-Des Moines
So I'm a control freak...I can admit that.  But the past couple of weeks have almost pushed me over the edge!!  I've been trying to micromanage every little detail and it's not going so well.  If I hear one more male tell me to relax (dad, FI, future FIL) I'm going to scream.  I've cried almost every night trying to put the last of the details together.  I've got probably 3 calendars/day planners and 5 lists of this and that all put together to try to feel like I have some control over this planning chaos.  Am I crazy? Or does the couple of weeks before the wedding feel like this for all brides who need to be in control??
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Re: Holy Cow!! 9 days left!?!

  • klovesdklovesd
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    edited December 2011
    You really do need to relax. When it comes down to the actual wedding day, no one will notice those micromanaged details but you. Do you really want to be stressed out about how the napkins are folded or be focused on marrying your FI? With 9 days left you need to start thinking about what is more important. You can't plan for everything, just sit back and enjoy!
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  • MrsEmJayMrsEmJay member
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    edited December 2011
    Take it from someone who is terrible at delegating (aka ME) that you have got to learn to let some details go, and let other people handle some things for you. Everytime anyone (my mom, MOH, FMIL) said "if there is anything I can do..." I ignored them because I wanted to be the one to do everything. Finally at around the 30 day mark I realized I just had way too much to do for one person, and I was at your point of just crying all the time from being so stresed out. So I did give away some duties. Really think about certain things, and what can be done by someone else. It REALLY really helped me. I had to relax and say to myself "Let go and let Mom" haha. And it felt good to get some things off my list.I wouldn't say you're crazy at all. But you do need to relax and just believe that everything is going to be fine no matter what. :)
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  • kellidanaekellidanae
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats on 9 days! You are stressing too much! I am a control person too, but have quickly realized with the last few weddings I have attended, guests really don't pay attention to how napkins are folded, or centerpieces, etc. They are there for you and FI and to visit with other old friends & aquantinces. Take a deep breath and give up some of the things you are stressing over. Enjoy the last few days. There are parts of my planning I don't think I have really taken in as I let my sister get in the way. I really regret that. Don't let yourself regret stressing too much these last few days.
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  • erinnhahnerinnhahn member
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    edited December 2011
    I am a total control freak too.  Trust me, I freaked out because I had this lady put a bow on my garter and I was thinking a bow but yet she made my bow into a breast cancer ribbon (a loop not a bow!) and I totally freaked out and had my aunt fixed it.  But really in the grand scheme of things, no one is going to pay any attention to the bow on my garter but that is just how bad I am myself about each and every detail being just the way I want it so I can definitely relate to you and I have 2 more months to go yet!  It's hard to not get stressed out but just try to stay level headed about it, go treat yourself to a massage or a mani/pedi, you will feel a lot more at ease!
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  • nataloo314nataloo314
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    edited December 2011
    You need to relax and tell yourself that if it's not done now, oh well. I had a lot of details and little things at my wedding, but at the one week mark if it wasn't done, i wasn't doing it. I can honestly tell you that I am SO, SO, SO glad I did that. I didn't stress AT ALL on my wedding day.
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