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My story

SweetpeaRN12SweetpeaRN12
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in California-Inland Empire
So, I'm married, technically.  We had our civil ceremony last Monday.  It was a nice place (county recorder in Fullerton).  The wholel thing took like 2 minutes.  We had invited our immediate families, and we felt like that was a HUGE mistake.  They were all making such a big deal out of it when we had made it perfectly clear that we did NOT want it to be a big deal.  When my mom showed up she had a bouquet for me and the first thing I said to her was "I don't want flowers, go put them in the car".  I felt horrible after for being so rude.  Then on Saturday there was a little party for SIL's bday, but people kept saying it was for us too and I was getting irritated.  I understand why people are excited, but it seems like they don't believe that we will actually have a wedding.  I don't feel any different and I hope it stays that way so that after the REAL wedding I will feel some difference.
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  • sv4338sv4338 member
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    edited December 2011
    awww I think your family is just excited for you and want to show you that they support you. I do think you should appologize to your mom though. Im sure she will understand she loves you and is trying to be excited for you :0)
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  • SweetpeaRN12SweetpeaRN12
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    edited December 2011
    I did appologize and thanked her for the flowers.  I don't know why I was/have been so irritated, maybe cause I knew DH (I don't feel like I should be putting that!) would be leaving.  Now he's gone and I feel blah again.
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  • sv4338sv4338 member
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    edited December 2011
    Its understandable you have alot going on trying to find a job and you miss your DH. I miss my husband and he's only gone overnight!I couldnt imagine gone for weeks/months at a time :0(what are you guys planning on doing? are you gonna move up there with him?
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  • SandraRay2008SandraRay2008 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you are just misunderstanding their exciting obviously they love you guys and are excited for you and they might just not know how to express it without being to much for you to handle. I am glad you did apologize to your mom that was the right thing to do. 
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  • amberg321amberg321
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats and I am sure you will be just as excited when you have your ceremony and reception! I think your family is just excited for you and dont really know how to express it without being overbearing as most parents can be without knowing it. Of course, when we all become parents will never be like that, right?! ;)
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  • breleficentbreleficent
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    edited December 2011
    Aw. I'm sure they were just happy for you. I'm sure your mom had good intentions. Anyways, congrats on becoming an OMH =)

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  • MrsB2B999MrsB2B999 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally understand how you are feeling. Last month, my fiance (well boyfriend at that time) was unexpectantly called to deploy to Iraq. He proposed and we decided to get married quickly and are planning a huge traditional wedding for next year when he returns. I have been hesitant to tell anyone, even my family. I finally told my mom last night. The first thing she said is, "do you want us to be there?" It's so weird but no I don't want anyone there but the 2 of us. The ceremony is next week. This has been one hell of a month of emotions. It's a bittersweet engagement knowing that he is leaving. I just want to carry on as if we are engaged and planning our 2010 wedding. Ahh! LOL
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