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Destination wedding vs. Traditional wedding

lklee82lklee82 member
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I'm have a dilema on my hands. I cannot decide whether to have a destination wedding or a traditional wedding at home. As long as I can remember I wanted a destination wedding. I initially started planning a destination wedding and planned to have a party back home when we got back, but some things happened along the way and now I question what to do. Does anyone have any advice that can maybe make this decision easier for me? I know not many people would be able to attend a destination wedding, only the ones that really matter and I am completely okay with that (my fiance, on the other hand, would like the entire world at our wedding). I also really want to do all the tradition things, like first dances, father/daughter dance, cut the cake, etc. and I'm not sure how to go about that if I'm having a party back home, is it tacky to do all that after your wedding day? Suggestions and advice please! :)
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Re: Destination wedding vs. Traditional wedding

  • soon2bmrshannigansoon2bmrshannigan member
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    edited December 2011
    I feel the same way as you do about a DW.  I have always wanted one!  I am not good as far as planning things out like flowers photographer etc that is just not my thing.  We went into the situation knowing that we can invite everyone we just know that not everyone will come and we are fine with that.  We have a good bit of people traveling to our wedding so we will have a small reception there after the wedding.  But we are having a larger reception when we get home and I plan on doing all the traditional things there!  I personally do not think it's tacky, it's YOUR reception do what you want.Where are you planning your DW?HTH
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  • lklee82lklee82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you so much for your insight! I just feel so torn by pleasing myself and pleasing everyone else. I'm also trying to be very budget savy. I would probably have a DW in Florida, simply due to the fact I want to stay in the US so I won't make everyone get a passport on top of the travel expenses. Where are you doing yours?
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  • soon2bmrshannigansoon2bmrshannigan member
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    edited December 2011
    Sandals Dunns River in Jamaica.
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  • marikoonomarikoono member
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    edited December 2011
    I had a destination wedding and for us it was the best decision we made. We (hubbers and I) both have small families, but TONS of long time family friends, many that we've never met and since we were paying for the wedding on our own it was more cost effective for us to have a destination wedding than to have a wedding here and not know half the guests invited. We skipped the traditional reception (which we were both okay doing) and took our 20 guests to a luau dinner after the ceremony. So we had no father/daughter dance, no cake cutting, etc. We did have a casual BBQ when we came back home, but it was more of a BBQ and less of an "at home reception". Neither one of us in the type to be in the spotlight thought so it was good for us. I don't really have any advice, ultimately the decision is up to you. Just make sure you're okay with not being able to have everyone afford or have the time to travel. That was something we were okay with (and to be truthful, banking on). There is little bit of guilt that goes along with destination weddings, you feel like you have to be a host their whole vacation. Don't though. You're only obligated to be the host on the wedding day, anything else is optional. :o) Give you guests much travel information initially. Don't be surprised that your guests thing you're a travel agent....it happens.
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  • mollynagemmollynagem
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    edited December 2011
    I actually know several people who have had destination weddings and simply had a reception at a location convenient to their families afterwards. Definitely not tacky at all.
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