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Sitter for kids??

Krys_mathewsKrys_mathews member
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Im worried about my younger children behaving at the wedding and me being able to enjoy the reception with them. My youngest will have just turned 4 so he should be ok. My (will be) 5 yr old is special needs and will need someone with him at ALL times. I dont have a lot of friends only 2 he will let close to him and I feel bad asking my parents you each watch a kid the whole time. This person will have to leave the reception early with the kids early. Should I hire a nanny for the night? Can I even do that? I dont feel to comfortable maybe their old daycare lady (when I worked) but again 1 adult to 2 kids  just sits uneasy with me.
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  • jennylee813jennylee813 member
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    I think that you'd have a better time if you hired someone you are comfortable with (as is your child). That way your family can relax and enjoy the day and you will have someone there who is entirely focused on your children. One adult to two kids should be fine.
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  • Krys_mathewsKrys_mathews member
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    My plans for the honeymoon is having my mom watch them. I just dont want her to have to leave the recpetion early because I plan on having it later in the day. I also dont like the idea of a stranger taking them home till my mom is done. I think Ill have someone outside the family bring them around a bit before the wedding so hes used to her.
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  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    Agree with PPs.  It sounds like both you and your mom will have a better time if you have someone who can assist your children.  Could you try to find someone now and give him/her a few test runs over the next year in order to make sure your kids are comfortable?  I would invite this person to the reception, have him/her sit with your kids and make sure arrangements are in place for them to adjourn with the kids at bedtime - a hotel room or your house, until you or a grandparent can relieve the sitter.

    You might be able to find a qualified candidate in a child development or early education prgram at a university near you.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    If your kids do okay with the lady from their old day-care, then that sounds like a good solution.  I don't think it's too much to ask one adult to watch two kids (especially if you are paying her to be your child-minder for the evening).

    I know it's not the same, but we hired a nurses aid to mind H's 96-year-old grandmother at our wedding (partially senile, continence issues).  MIL is her primary caregiver, and we didn't want MIL to not enjoy herself because she was proccupied with caring for the grandmother.   We paid the nurses aid, but also gave her a seat at the reception and otherwise treated her just like a guest.  It worked out really well.  

    You will obviously want to make sure that the daycare lady spends some more time with your kids before the wedding (especially the special-needs child), and that you clearly spell out your expectations and what you are offering to pay her.   I think it sounds like a really good solution.
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  • dtbluvdtbluv member
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    You can check out care.com or similar sites to find a baby-sitter for just that event.  I'd also recommend having whoever the care-giver ends up being spend time with the kids before the wedding.

    I work as a nanny, and for every family I've ever worked for I've spent several hours with the kids and the parents all together before I've taken the kids on my own, so I'm interacting with the kids in a variety of situations so I can learn how to best handle them depending on their needs at the time.  It really helps the transition into the kids being temporarily parentless.

    Also, you could have a special "treat" for the kids when they go home with the babysitter, especially a new movie they want to see or something similar so they will be excited to leave with babysitter when the time comes, and a movie will relax them so going to bed without you or your mom there will be less stressful.
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  • mandi195mandi195
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    When I got married my son was 2. I had "hired" one of the women from his daycare to watch him during the ceremony and reception. She was a guest, as well as being paid for her services. She sat with him (and my family) for dinner, and when it was later in the evening she took him to my parents house (they were caring for my son while I was on my honeymoon). I still, however, danced, cuddled, and did all that with my son during our reception, and spent the following day with him as we didn't leave for our honeymoon until 2 days after the wedding.
    Best of luck.
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