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Officiant outfit color

shortgirltxshortgirltx
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The person that will be marrying us has said to pick out what color suit we want them to wear.  They look best in lighter colors (tan, beige, off white) but it's also similar to my dress (ivory).  I want him to feel good and comfortable and he looks really good in the off white suit.  Is this a bad thing because it's a similar color to my dress?  Does the "guests don't wear white to the wedding" extend to the person marrying you? 
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  • Brie2010Brie2010 member
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    Nobody will notice or care.  I'm pretty sure people won't mix up the bride and the male officiant.Just tell him to wear whatever he feels comfortable in.
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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    I'm pretty sure people won't mix up the bride and the male officiant.This right here.  Also, in most religious wedding ceremonies (at least in the Catholic Church), the officiant wears a light shade, or at least SOME white.  So it's really not that unheard of for the officiant to wear white, or ivory, or ecru, or what have you.
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  • ring_popring_pop member
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    I got married in a Catholic church and my officiant wore white:[img]<a href="http://i493.photobucket.com/albums/rr293/adriane522/avblog-26.jpg" rel='nofollow'>http://i493.photobucket.com/albums/rr293/adriane522/avblog-26.jpg</a>[/img]
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  • sarabellamsarabellam member
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    We had 2 officiants (okay, technically we had 1 officiant and 1 celebrant, but I digress) and they were both in white robes. I think you are overthinking this.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    Does the "guests don't wear white to the wedding" extend to the person marrying you? This honestly doesn't even really apply to guests anymore.  It doesn't matter what anyone wears.
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  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    I'm fine with it, he looks great in that color...FMIL is gritching about it and I just wanted to make sure because I'm not into all these "rules".Yeah hopefully they will be able to tell us apart :)
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    Typically they'll wear something that isn't obtrusive.  My officiant is wearing black.  Most religious officiants wear their robes which are (typically, in my experience) a shade of white or off white.  As you can see from Ring_pop's photo, it's very unobtrusive and he fades into the background.I'm not sure why an officiant would ask what colour to wear.  That's just weird.

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  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    Moose- Our officiant is a family friend.
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  • sarah0725sarah0725
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    Liturgically, white is the color of joy and celebration, which is why priests wear it at weddings. It would be very appropriate for your officiant to wear white.
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    Ah.  gotcha.

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  • fangsitingfangsiting
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    It's fine for him to wear white.  Our officiant asked me what he should wear.  I said he could wear whatever he wanted as long as he didn't wear pleated pants.  (our officiant is my dad who I always tease about wearing pleated pants)
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