Community› Local Wedding Boards› Nevada-Las Vegas
Nevada-Las Vegas
New Discussion

okay should i be upset?

tatizissocool02tatizissocool02
First Comment
in Nevada-Las Vegas
I really need to know if I am upset for no reason. Me and my fiance have bee planning our wedding since the begining of the year for next year in october. My fiance was so excited that he went and told all his family that we are getting married in october. Just yesterday his sister announced that she is getting married next year in october. I admit I am upset and I knkow he is too. what do You all think?Undecided
Report Reply to Post

Re: okay should i be upset?

  • yogiebhillyogiebhill member
    Seventh Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yes Ma'am! I would be livid!!!!!!!  As a matter of fact I know how you feel. My wedding is next September 2nd, we too have informed both sides. Then out of nowhere, my FH's brother's fiance hs chosen next MAY to marry and has informed everyone that she IS NOT attending our wedding because she is saving for her's BUT she expects us to travel to their's!   Is she serious?????
     

    What are you all going to do?
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • arrestclementinearrestclementine member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    Ummm yes i would be very upset!!!!  have you booked the venue and such yet??  It's a little early but have you sent out the STD's?  Did they say what date there's is?
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    Follow Me on Pinterest
    Report Reply
  • wiwicatywiwicaty
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry but it bothers me, don't take it personally. It's *hers* and *theirs*, no apostrophes.

    OP, I'm confused by the info in your profile, is your wedding set for 2012 or 2013? If it is actually planned for October 2013 that means that your FSIL's wedding is one whole year apart from yours... am I reading this wrong?
    Anniversary Visit LasVegas.Weddings.com
    **LV Knotties List**DW checklist**
    Report Reply
  • starree444starree444 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would be very upset. Did they say why they chose the same month as you?

    AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers
    Follow Me on Pinterest
    OMG I HAVE A BIO! LOOK AT IT!
    image 86 image52 image 34
    Report Reply
  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_okay-should-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:156924ba-abd3-4d08-8dda-3df62b0102d2Post:65993ffb-d8d2-4bd0-a7f1-8b9bd51719b0">okay should i be upset?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I really need to know if I am upset for no reason. Me and my fiance have bee planning our wedding since the begining of the year for next year in october. My fiance was so excited that he went and told all his family that we are getting married in october. Just yesterday his sister announced that she is getting married next year in october. I admit I am upset and I knkow he is too. what do You all think?
    Posted by tatizissocool02[/QUOTE]

    I'd need to know more information to decide if I'd be upset.  How much time was there between when he told everyone and when she announced her date?  Perhaps her, just like you, had already been planning it around a specific date without telling anyone.  If that's the case, I couldn't fault them anymore than I could fault you since either of you probably could have avoided the issue by choosing the date first, with a reasonable amount of time factored in to allow for planning, announced it, then started planning.

    [QUOTE]Yes Ma'am! I would be livid!!!!!!!  As a matter of fact I know how you feel. My wedding is next September 2nd, we too have informed both sides. Then out of nowhere, my FH's brother's fiance hs chosen next MAY to marry and has informed everyone that she IS NOT attending our wedding because she is saving for her's BUT she expects us to travel to their's!   Is she serious?????   What are you all going to do?
    Posted by yogiebhill[/QUOTE]

    Now that would piss me off.  Yours is after hers by four months.  If she's in such a dire financial situation that she can't save up enough monty over four months to attend the wedding of her brother in law, then perhaps she needs to scale her own wedding expenses back because surely there are other things she's also sacrificing on.  Or she's just full of BS.  I'd end up still attending hers simply becuase it's your FI's brother but I'd probably also call her out on it next time I saw her lol.

    Married in Vegas - June 2011


    Report Reply
  • simoniksimonik member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_okay-should-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:156924ba-abd3-4d08-8dda-3df62b0102d2Post:c6b044b9-650d-483c-826e-449ac1835ae5">Re: okay should i be upset?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to okay should i be upset? : I'd need to know more information to decide if I'd be upset.  How much time was there between when he told everyone and when she announced her date?  Perhaps her, just like you, had already been planning it around a specific date without telling anyone.  If that's the case, I couldn't fault them anymore than I could fault you since either of you probably could have avoided the issue by choosing the date first, with a reasonable amount of time factored in to allow for planning, announced it, then started planning. Now that would piss me off.  Yours is after hers by four months.  If she's in such a dire financial situation that she can't save up enough monty over four months to attend the wedding of her brother in law, then perhaps she needs to scale her own wedding expenses back because surely there are other things she's also sacrificing on.  Or she's just full of BS.  I'd end up still attending hers simply becuase it's your FI's brother but I'd probably also call her out on it next time I saw her lol.
    Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

    AGREE!!

    There is an issue coming up in my family that is very similar to this. My brother is getting married in June of 2013 and we are planning for February 2013.  The issue is my brother and his fiance are having their Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties in Vegas.  I am pretty positive there will be issues with this when we get closer.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker

    Follow Me on Pinterest

    Report Reply
  • lsvenssonlsvensson member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hell yes, I would be PISSED.  You're well within your rights.
    image Check it-- my planning bio! Wedding Countdown Ticker White Knot
    Report Reply
  • nycherylnycheryl
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I also need more information before I can make a judgment call.  I think there's a fine line between being upset and being selfish.  (E board reponse - you get one day, not the whole month.)  If both weddings are destination and some people might not be able to attend your wedding because of theirs, then I could be upset.  If she picked that date just to spite you, then I'd be upset.  Maybe one couple should consider moving their date if it's causing so much stress.
    **Planning Bio**
    Report Reply
  • tatizissocool02tatizissocool02
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    well i have now changed the year for my FH because thats what he wants but it is originaly for 2012.  october 13th to be exact so it would not be a big deal at first but she is saying that she wants to have her wedding within the first two week hints around our date. like i said he was upset but he figures it his sister. no i had not booked my venue yet thank goodness because i would have be more than just a little upset.
    Report Reply
  • tatizissocool02tatizissocool02
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    @ YOGIEBHILL

    she is crazy I dont understand how some can be so incosiderate.
    Report Reply
  • tatizissocool02tatizissocool02
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    that is one of the reasons i am upset for my Fh his family is very important and having it the same month and in the same 2 week period it is a def that some people will not show up
    Report Reply
  • yogiebhillyogiebhill member
    Seventh Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    I was shocked as well. Our date had been announced way before their engagement so she knew!  Since she pulled this crap, my future husband will have relatives having to pick which wedding  to attend.

    She sure hasn't scored any points with me after this stunt.

    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • mizutamababymizutamababy member
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_okay-should-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:156924ba-abd3-4d08-8dda-3df62b0102d2Post:4ef296a7-dee8-4fce-84a0-1bcc2417aede">Re: okay should i be upset?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes Ma'am! I would be livid!!!!!!!  As a matter of fact I know how you feel. My wedding is next September 2nd, we too have informed both sides. Then out of nowhere, my FH's brother's fiance hs chosen next MAY to marry and has informed everyone that she IS NOT attending our wedding because she is saving for her's BUT she expects us to travel to their's!   Is she serious?????   What are you all going to do?
    Posted by yogiebhill[/QUOTE]

    Had this exact same thing happen!  And the E board chewed me out for being upset over it, lol.  In the end, person in question came to my wedding afterall and I am going to theirs since the moved the date a month back allowing me a little time to recover from my own before I have to spend money on another destination wedding.

    As to OP, I would be a little miffed, but as long as they don't put pressure on you to go or are putting pressure on your family to choose which one to go to, like the others said they may have just been keeping it quiet like you two did.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards