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Kids or No kids?!

cnario87cnario87 member
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So my fiance and I decided we really would like to keep our wedding an adult function, free of children! However, my future mother in law seems to think that because of this rule, no one will come. My sister said No children at her wedding as well and she had plenty of guests at her wedding anyway. So finally...kids? or no kids? and if so, how can I post it on the invites? We have to write it in eng/span. anything will help thanks!
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  • rhodesignrhodesign
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    Just address the invites to the adults invited. If people question it or rsvp with kids, tell them individually that you're not budgeting for kids, adult reception, etc. en ingles o espanol. =)
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  • jenni2349jenni2349 member
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    I've seen many reception cards that simply state "Adults only reception immediately following." Does not get much clearer than that.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    The way to do this is to only address the invitations to the adults you're inviting.  You can go a step further and write out the response cards for the guests so all they do is check next to __accepts or __declines after their name.Writing 'adults only' isn't appropriate at all.
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  • kebmtm071605kebmtm071605
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    I see that you mention you need it in English & Spanish...are you & your Fi from different cultures?  If so, this may be stemming FMIL's expectation that children need to be invited. It's perfectly fine to have an adult-only wedding, but you & Fi should really sit down with her and have a discussion about why you came to this decision (e.g., financial, timing of the event, etc.).  Do a lot of the OOT family have young children and no one to watch them?  If so, that may be one of her concerns and one of the reason why she said no one will be able to attend.  See what her reasons are and see if you can find solutions so everyone is happy.
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    It's really a personal choice.  We considered having no kids at our wedding but we have so many close family members and friends with kids that we just didn't want to exclude them.   There's nothing wrong with doing that though if that's what you want.  You do just have to prepared that you may have a guest or two try to talk you into letting their kid come, or threaten not to come if they can't bring their kid.  Just plan for that and have your response ready.How to Specify an Adults Only Wedding | eHow.com
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  • cnario87cnario87 member
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    Thanks for the responses. We are of Mexican descent so both sides of our families are bilingual, that's why I need to write it in ENG/SPAN. So, I guess I'll go with the idea to only invite the adults and specify their names. I was also considering a minimum age limit of 10 years old, by then they should be able to handle the formal event even though I remember HATING to go to weddings etc when I was that age. I would like to please everyone but my ultimate wish is NO KIDS.
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