Hi everyone,
My fiance and I both have long standing stepmoms as well as stepdads. That's 8 parents between us! For the most part everyone is happy and we don't have to deal with undercurrents of strain and anger. In this respect we are lucky. However my stepmom has always felt closer to me than I am to her. She's been married to my dad for 25 years, and although I want to honor this relationship, my mom is really the most important parent in my life.
Does anyone have any ideas for what to do with my stepmom while I'm getting ready for the ceremony and sharing those moments with my mom and sister? I don't want to make my stepmom feel completely left out, but I don't want to take away from my mom's moment with her daughters. Also, my stepmom wants my sister and I to wear pearls that she gave both of us years and years ago. She doesn't understand the implications for my mom, nor does she deal well when my opinion of what looks good differs from hers (my dress SO does not call for pearls!). I'm desperately trying to honor everyone and keep myself sane at the same time. I love them all, but ???
Thanks!