My parents are throwing an engagement party for me and my FI at my aunt's house in October. My Fi's younger sister (who got engaged 4 months before we did & hasn't had an engagement party thrown for her yet) is claiming it's "weird" to invite family members? She somehow got it into her head that it's supposed to be "immediate family & the wedding party." Not that I'm much of a traditionalist, anyways... but I'm feeling like these comments may be stemming from jealousy? Instead of saying, "Oh I wish I had had an engaement party." she's trying to make us feel weird about having one....? (She and my FI aren't really close & have the lamest sibling rivalry ever). Now I've been looking and looking online... and the ONLY things I have read about who to invite is 1) not the whole wedding guest list, 2) not people from out of town, and 3) nobody who won't be invited to the wedding. I'm not saying we're going to invite 2nd cousins or anything-- but my mom's planning on inviting his grandparents (mine have all passed), aunt's and uncles from both sides, the wedding party, and a few friends of my family. First of all-- it's a party thrown for us, I'm not going to tell my parents how to throw it. Secondly, I think it's going to be fun! I just don't get why she has to be Debbie Downer about it & it's making me feel really uncomfortable having this party. Like I'm upsetting the etiquette gods or something? I don't even think this is a question. I'm just feeling a little confused & weird & guilty for some reason.