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Would you??

TtotheGTtotheG
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So, when FI and I originally started talking about getting married I told him I didn't want a big ring (heh). We had a savings that was specific for something else that unfortunately we have not been blessed with yet. While walking through the mall we stopped into the jeweler to get my ring cleaned and ended up looking at wedding bands. FI found a bigger (but very different ring - something similar to what I originally wanted way back in the day) and had me try it on. He knows I've sort of been down with this last surgery and asked me if I wanted to trade up. I tried the ring on and fell in love but can't part with my e-ring... yet when I look at it I can also honestly say "eh." I guess it's just sentimental value. Ugh. I feel like such a bridezilla and spoiled brat, but I can't shake that other ring. I don't know what to do :\ And I also noticed (after trying on like 7 different wedding bands) that *nothing* matches my current e-ring.
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  • rclnd83rclnd83 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    you and FI have good intentioons. Go for what your heart desires (so cliche :D) Whatever choice you'll make , it will be awesome! Hope to see a pic if you do make a switch.
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  • muddiliciousmuddilicious member
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    edited December 2011
    If he offered, I would trade up.I was one of those who didn't love my original ring - DH knew it the moment I opened the box.  He made sure to buy from a place that allows you to change up. He was a little embarrassed but LOVES my new rings.Be grateful that he is offering and knows you so well, cause it would suck to have an eh ring forever.
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  • goldie3474goldie3474
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm I'm really sentimental so that is a tough call for me but I also have not had a shiny new larger bling offered to me. I guess if FI offered, I'd prob be just as torn as you :) Sorry I was NO help.
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
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    edited December 2011
    My current e-ring: http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2927340&kpc=1 New e-ring: http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3528618&kpc=1 Oy.
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
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    edited December 2011
    P.s. My original e-ring dropped HUGELY in price. Like... half.
    DX stage 4 endo 4/2005 Lap #2 7/2007 Lap #3 8/2009 uterus, tubes & cul-de-sec fused. partial bowel resection. LUPRON :( Surprise BFP 4/2010 Layla Grace 11/17/2010 Surprise BFP 12/2011 - stick baby stick! THE BLOG Lilypie Second Birthday tickers Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • pharmdmiamipharmdmiami
    Seventh Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My mother has the most simple, humble, probably not even real, ring.  One day, she lost her wedding band and cried for like 2 weeks.  She absolutely did not want it replaced and did not want to trade up her engagement ring.  The sentimental value of who they were when she received it and when they got married could not be replaced.  Well, she found the wedding band under her desk about 1 year later (super weird, don't ask.. she doesn't even take off her jewelry at work).  Long story short, I would say no.  With the way the economy is, you could use the money for something else.  Additionally, this is the ring that got you to marry this amazing guy in the first place!  The value of that can't be replaced!My rec if you can't find a matching band:  keep the main stone and change the setting to look like what you liked at the store.  I got my setting and matching wedding band for about $700 (both have diamonds-white gold) at the seybold bldg and really the setting is what makes your stone look amazing.
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  • LilBit1018LilBit1018
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    edited December 2011
    hmm this is a toughy. My fi also has said that he would love to upgrade my e-ring. I love mine but i'm sure something bigger i would love too. With that said, however, the thought of having to take my original ring and replace it, even if it is bigger just makes me sad, bc i do love my ring very much. Sorry i am of no help, but i do feel the same way.
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
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    edited December 2011
    I guess I also attach this ring with the fact we were TTC for nearly a year and nada. So after this surgery and everything that's been going on with our fertility future, I sort of look down at this ring and see disappointment... but then I feel like, "But this is what he gave me? I should love it." I mean, I seriously told him - don't come home with anything over $1,000. But now I have to go into a medically induced menopause for 6 months to a year and by 28, 29 the latest 30, I have to have a partial hysterectomy (uterus and left ovary) or I'll lose bowel. So, that's when FI was sort of like, ok let's get you something else. Sorry - I guess this all came to a boiling point tonight. LOL. BAH.
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  • goldie3474goldie3474
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    edited December 2011
    aww tess. well instead of looking at it as a reminder of disappointing times, think of the ring as a testament of all the things you went through together. that no matter, you both stood by one another and overcame something together - as a tam, as a couple :)
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  • goldie3474goldie3474
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    edited December 2011
    tam = TEAM. lol
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    How many margaritas did you have? lol
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  • goldie3474goldie3474
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    lol! not even a full ONE!!! How lame is that! It was 2-4-1 and I couldnt even finish the first.
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  • pharmdmiamipharmdmiami
    Seventh Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Sorry I didn't know the original purpose for the money.  I second goldie
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
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    edited December 2011
    LOL Alissa... I can never finish the 2nd... So, I'm a REALLY cheap date. Don't even finish the free drink!! Pharm, it's ok :) Its all sort of hard to come to terms with, ya know? We've been sitting on this for sometime now... knowing it was going to come, just not sure when? We'll hopefully get a chance to TTC again before the disease is back, but from the looks of it... it won't be long. We're trying to keep the fire out with the menopause, but with a case so aggressive as mine... i'll lose my uterus by 30 no matter what. uterus or bowel? ill lose the ute, thanks. lol I guess with the 2nd ring, the grass isn't always greener, right!? I wish I could take it for a week on "loaner" and see if I like it! Haha.
    DX stage 4 endo 4/2005 Lap #2 7/2007 Lap #3 8/2009 uterus, tubes & cul-de-sec fused. partial bowel resection. LUPRON :( Surprise BFP 4/2010 Layla Grace 11/17/2010 Surprise BFP 12/2011 - stick baby stick! THE BLOG Lilypie Second Birthday tickers Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • aitironeaitirone
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    To be honest..i could never. To me im just way too sensitive and sentimental. this ring came with love...he picked it out, it was the original...ahh i dunno. im a sap
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  • tazdvl3tazdvl3 member
    Knottie Warrior 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Oh Tess, I can't even imagine what you and FI are going through. It doesn't sound like you don't like your ring, it's more like your frustration talking, which is TOTALLY understandable. You seem to be one that takes on a lot of emotion. I was thinking the same about getting a loaner, because you may start to feel guilty that you spent all that money on that ring. Whatever you decide to do will be ok. You and FI decided this together. What I would do? I'm also one for the sentimental value. I thought it was weird at first hearing about people upgrading their rings. Then it becomes more about the ring then the real value of it. I would've thought that your ering would be easier to match up then the plain band? Like I said whatever you decide will not be wrong and regardless of what we tell you , YOU need to be one ok with the decision. GL!
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  • Kitty315Kitty315 member
    Knottie Warrior 500 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't trade up either. I like my ring.. it's what he proposed with, it's what I was flashing in everyone's face and I'm super attached to it. Save the money for your original dream. =) BTW, I like your current ring more than the potential upgrade. That's just me. GL with whatever you decide, Tess!
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  • TtotheGTtotheG
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Lissette - I think you're right about the frustration. FI and I talked about that too... We're dropping my ring off to get re-dipped today, so hopefully I'll fall back in love with it when I see it all shiny!! thank you for your support and opinions, ladies :) I asked a few other people who didn't give advice as good as all of yours! I <3 you all!
    DX stage 4 endo 4/2005 Lap #2 7/2007 Lap #3 8/2009 uterus, tubes & cul-de-sec fused. partial bowel resection. LUPRON :( Surprise BFP 4/2010 Layla Grace 11/17/2010 Surprise BFP 12/2011 - stick baby stick! THE BLOG Lilypie Second Birthday tickers Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • babytecbabytec member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If you think you'll be happier witht the upgrate, i say go for it! How sweet is your FI to offer!!!
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