Ok, so I just got off the phone with my FMIL.
As a little background, she has done nothing but cause problems throughout the whole wedding planning process, and basically our whole relationship.
Anyway, so my phone call with this woman consisted of nothing but her trash talking, belittling me, and ended with her screaming as I hung up on her. I've been trying to get a hold of her for about 2 months now, and this is the first time she's picked up the damn phone.
I started off by asking her how she was doing because I hadn't spoken to her in a while. This must have been the worst thing I could have done because she responded, "Well is it my fault that you never want to talk to me, and keep my son from talking to me?" Um, what? I've been calling her everyday for 2 months (yes, literally everyday), and your son lives with you. How am I keeping him from speaking to you? Anyway, I ignored it, and moved on. I then asked her if I could talk to her about the guests she added last minute (15 extra people). She then responded with "If you have nothing better to do, then I guess so." Whatever, I ignored it. I then calmly explained to her how my parents were feeling very strained regarding finances, and adding 15 extra people would top off the budget and we still had things to pay off before the wedding in 16 days. I then told her that we devised a guest list about 4 months ago, consisting of as many people we could accomodate from each side of the family, and friends my fiance and I would like there. I then plainly told her that if she would like those 15 extra people there (that she invited 18 days before the wedding), my parents would appreciate her putting some money toward their seats, as they could not afford to accommodate those extra people.
This was when the apocalypse started. She freaking flipped. She creamed at me for a solid 23 minutes (I timed it) about how I was a spoiled brat who got everything I wanted and I never had to work for anything in my life and how I was going to ruin my fiance and bankrupt him. She also told me that she knew my family could afford it because my mom works in a bank (I have no idea what that has to do with aynthing), and we drive nice cars, and can afford to keep horses and have properties and she wasn't going to shell out a dime for this "backwoods hillbilly shotgun wedding" that her perfect son was getting into with white trash. (By the way, how can I be rich and be white trash? And I am not pregnant. Fiance and I are waiting for marriage to have sex, so it's basically impossible). She then continued to say I was the worst thing to have happened to my fiance, and he was much better off without me, and I've turned him against the whole family, and how nobody in his family likes me. She also yelled at me because the wedding started at 4 in the afternoon and that was too early and we didn't even ask her if it was okay with her, and it was rude to be getting married in my church instead of her church.
She then declared war on me and our wedding by stating "this wedding will happen when I die, and I will stand up and object to the marriage."
Let me clear up a few things she said: I am not a spoiled brat. I am an only child, but that had only made it harder for me growing up. I had to work for everything I got as a child. I had to prove it was worth my parents investing in.
I did not work in high school, my parents told me school is my job and if I need something they will provide for it, and if I want something, I had to work for it around the house and in the family business.
My fiance doesn't even have any money. We are both poor. He is a security officer, and I am a teacher working for my stepdads business until the new school year starts. In fact, I'm the one doing the finances to make sure we stay on budget.
Yes, my mom works in a bank, and she is high up in the bank. But she worked her tail off to get where she is. And if anybody knows anything about the economy right now, banks aren't very profitable. My stepdad owns his own business selling used trucks and renting Hertz cars and Penkse moving trucks. It is not doing well, again, attributed to the economy. My parents are fortunate enough to be very good with money and have saved and invested throughout the good times, so they are not hurting, but they are not fruitful. This wedding is a huge cost for them (and it isn't an expensive wedding).
We do not drive nice cars. My whole family has cars that are 2002 or older. They are constantly being repaired as well. I do not care about this. I don't need a nice car. I'd rather live in a nice house than drive a nice car. My fiance's mom, however, drives a brand new BMW, yet is "poor." Sure you are, lady.
Yes, we have horses. But like I said before, my parents are good with their money, and the horses are part of their investment, and yes they have properties, as an investment.
I am definitely not the worst thing to ever happen to my fiance. When we met, he was a college drop out working part time at Bed Bath and Beyond. Since then, he went through the police academy, has a full time job in security, and his life is on track toward great things. Yeah, I'm SOO bad for him.
My fiance has always had a strained relationship with one of his brothers. His brother is jealous of his life because his hasn't turned out like he wanted because he got a girl pregnant young and can't do what he wants. Not my fiance's problem. He gets along with everyone else in his family. And I don't care if they don't like me. I'm marrying my fiance because I love him, not because of his family.
4 in the afternoon was when the church permitted us to get married. We even had to fight for that time, because they had a cap time of 1 PM. And yes, we are getting married in my fiance and MY church instead of hers. My fiance doesn't go to her church, and they only speak Spanish. I've been at my church since I was 8 years old, and the Pastor marrying us has been my Pastor since that time. He married my mom and my stepdad IN THAT SAME CHURCH, and promised me when I was 8 he would marry me too. My fiance and I also got ENGAGED at that church. DUH! Of course we are getting married there!
Oh, and we took out the part of "if anyone would like to object, please say now" because of people like her. And this wedding will happen, so I hope that's not an omen of her dying soon... not. lol
Anyway, sorry for venting for so long.
