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Advice Needed Re- Inviting Children

MereFM99MereFM99 member
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My fiance and I decided not to invite anyone under age 21 to our ceremony or reception.  It's an evening wedding and we want it to be adults due to both the formality/tone, and for budgetary reasons.  I have so many younger cousins, we couldn't afford to invite them to the reception if we wanted to.  But really the more important reason is that it's just our preference.So, we have gotten our first question, well could we bring the kids just to the ceremony?  Our answer is no, but how can I tell her (my aunt) that without being offensive or sounding rude?  Any advice?
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Re: Advice Needed Re- Inviting Children

  • conchgirlconchgirl
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    edited December 2011
    what kid really wants to go to a wedding ceremony anyway? What a sticky situation. Why not have one of your parents call your aunt? Let them be the bad guy!
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  • MereFM99MereFM99 member
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    edited December 2011
    Where I said "we" I really meant my mom and I, b/c my mom got the question, so yes, she will be the bad guy :-)  But it's still our decision, so I feel like I should give her an explanation that doesn't sound rude.
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  • SarahKate31SarahKate31
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    edited December 2011
    You could claim space restrictions on your ceremony site. Although if space is actually not an issue, your aunt will figure it out when they get there. You could just be vague and say, we're sorry but we aren't going to be able to accommodate any children. Or you could agree to allow them at the ceremony, although I agree with pp - not sure how many kids *want* to sit through a ceremony and then be sent home. What does your aunt plan to do with her kids after the ceremony, if you allowed them to come?
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  • vjcjenn1vjcjenn1 member
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    edited December 2011
    why make her parents the bad guy when it's their preference.Is the ceremony in the same place as the reception or is it at a church.  If it is seperate, then I don't think you should no.  But if it's at the same place, I think as people ask you "Can we bring our kids", you just need to answer, I'm sorry but we are not inviting any children to the ceremony or reception.  If they press for a reason, say "I hope you understand it was a difficult decision that we had to think a lot about, but in the end we decided not to include children for a multitude of reasons"
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  • MereFM99MereFM99 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that their plan was to come to the ceremony only and then go home.  I guess short and sweet is best.
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    edited December 2011
    We are very sorry but Bart , Lisa , and Maggy are not invited to the wedding ceremoney or reception. We do hope you and homer can still attend. It woudl however be lovely to see bart,lisa,and maggy sometime after the wedding but relatively soon.
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