What is proper?

oburrell · September 2009

It's been 36 days since my wedding. I received an email from our photographer that she can't finish our pictures right now because her MIL died last week. I'm trying to be patient and nice...WWYD in this situation? My family keeps asking for pictures, I want the pictures to do my TY cards-I just want my pictures!

crfische · September 2009

I'd say I'm so sorry about your MIL. Please take this time to be with your family.

aerinpegadrak · September 2009

Offer your condolences to your photographer. Do your thank yous without the pictures (people just read them and pitch them anyway), and tell your family that your photographer just had a death in the family, and you'll let them know when you get the pictures.Do NOT hound your poor photographer. She has more important things to deal with right now.

danieliza1127 · September 2009

I think you should send out TY cards asap, don't wait for pictures. It's more important that your guests receive their thank you than a picture. Beyond that, I would just wait it out. I know plenty of brides who didn't get their pictures until 3-6 months after the wedding, which is pretty normal.

vallyhoo · September 2009

Yep, listen to the lady in the straight jacket with the margarita IV. Srsly.

AlexiaANDRobert · September 2009

Don't wait for pictures for your TY cards. What does your contract say about when the pictures will done? 36 days is plenty of time to get TY cards out....

bbyckes · September 2009

I think you need to slap that biitch around a little. The nerve. Seriously, just send a reply stating that you understand that this is a trying time for her and her family and that you appreciate the notice. Inquire as to when she anticipates that she will be able to finish your photos and when you should be expecting them.If she doesn't deliver by that date, then you have a problem. Tell your family that the pictures will be forthcoming shortly.

cdeshane · September 2009

I agree, just because they are hired for the wedding doesn't mean they don't get grieving time for a death in the family. Give them time. If your MIL died would you not take bereavement from work?

salt78 · September 2009

In the grand scheme 36 days isn't that long anyway. Please have sympathy for the poor woman. Her MIL just died for chrissake.

mandysmear · September 2009

I would send thank you cards now and then pop a photo from the wedding in a christmas card. I assume you'll have the photos by christmas

tidetravel · September 2009

Really? You really have to ask this? Send out TY cards right away, sans the pic and show a little compassion.

ring_pop · September 2009

I'd show some compassion. Offer your condolences and tell her not to worry about the pictures. If your family asks again, explain the situation vaguely and tactfully. And ditto dani about going ahead and doing the TYs.

oburrell · September 2009

In my defense, I did send out a sympathetic email to her as soon as I heard about her MIL. I guess I just needed some suggestions on how to ask her a good time frame to expect my pictures to be ready. I think I will use what cacoeffer said-TY!

eastunder1 · September 2009

Ditto Tide. You shouldn't even half to ask this. Anyone with a hint of compassion would know that their wedding pictures will not even be close to being on this persons radar in the next week or two. Nor should they be, since they will be grieving and supporting their spouse who will be devastated. Um, duh.Send out the cars without them. Explain to your family what has happened. Then wait two weeks and follow up.

ring_pop · September 2009

Selective hearing. Well done.

ffmaid · September 2009

You are already late on thank yous. Go to target tonight buy some thank you cards and just write them tonight with DH. What did your contract say? when would photos be delivered? If no wording or within a week or two then let the escuse slide if not let it slide a week and then ask for them again if already at least a week overdue

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