substituting invited guests

Re: substituting invited guests

• brainybrunette member

  

  July 2012

  If you specifically put his name on the invitation (not just "and guest) and she brings someone else, that's extremely rude on her part!  I would tell her:  I'm sorry, but I invited you and BF not you and a guest of your choice.  In the nicest way possible of course ; )

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• lehc723 member

  

  July 2012

  Agreed with PP, unless you think it's a situation where she may really want or need to bring someone else for a good reason, but based on the way you're putting it, it certainly doesn't sound like it, ha. Good luck!

  
  

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• achiduck member

  

  July 2012

  I find it kind of presumptuous on the guest's part to assume they can just bring anyone. No, you can not bring your third cousin's best friend. I would just put her BF's name on the invitation and if she tries to substitute then just tell her the invitation was for her and her BF and you cannot accommodate random people.
  
  The ONLY time I have ever substituted was when my FI (bf at the time) got stuck working 2 days before my coworker's wedding. By that point they had already paid for the meal so I brought my friend instead. If we had found out he was going to have to work before they had given the caterer the headcount I would have just gone on my own.

  
  

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• jenny&will2014

  

  July 2012

  Perhaps I am missing something but I would take her saying "don't be surprised if I bring someone else" as a sign that they are not doing very well and she may not still be with him by the time your wedding comes around. I think that you allotted in your budget for her "whatever" and if she is no longer with him or thinks he would ruin your day by being an ass then I would accept with arms wide open her bringing someone else. IMO

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• lehc723 member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_substituting-invited-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:0875979f-9fc2-416d-9bc8-9f3ee459fa1cPost:71dcde2d-3c61-4817-b86b-aa06b6792b77">Re: substituting invited guests</a>:
  [QUOTE]Perhaps I am missing something but I would take her saying "don't be surprised if I bring someone else" as a sign that they are not doing very well and she may not still be with him by the time your wedding comes around. I think that you allotted in your budget for her "whatever" and if she is no longer with him or thinks he would ruin your day by being an ass then I would accept with arms wide open her bringing someone else. IMO
  Posted by jenny&will2014[/QUOTE]
  This is a good point! I didn't read it that way, but now I totally see what it is you're saying.

  
  

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• PattySmith101 member

  

  July 2012

  i am in the same situation. My boss/ friend at work told me she didnt want to bring her husband she was going to bring someone else we work with that i wasnt inviting! seriously if i wanted that person there i would have invited her and her husband too! i dont have a problem with the women she wants to bring! i just am not very close with  her! Then my boss tried to convince 2 of the other women who are invited with their husbands that they should leave their husbands home and bring other people we work with that werent invited!!! < i work in a restaurant> my one friend was like " why would i bring a co worker--- i like my husband and spending time with him!" my boss was like " oh it will be so much more fun if we leave our husbands at home" seriously!!!!! i invited you and your husband not you and " Sarah" or you and "+ guest " your married if you werent married i wouldnt care who you brought!  i told people who werent in relationships they still had + ones and i dont care who it is !uggg some people!
  
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• vanessahuaman

  

  July 2012

  I totally understand ,going through same situation now.My friend and her bf were invited to come to my wedding.However because hes againest my living lifestyle (because fi and I already live together before marriage),he has opted not to come to my wedding.So she decided shes going to bring a random girlfriend of hers.I am upset because,I dont mind to pay more to the caterer for more guests, its just that my venue has limited seating and feel that I could invite someone closer to me to feel that spot,rather than someone I dont know.I think you should talk to her and explain that the invite was addressed for that certain person only.Hopefully she wil understand !

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